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Why has our sex life died?

By April 15, 2012 - 7:41am
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Before we married 18 months ago, our sex life was fantastic. Just days before we married I found out I was pregnant. I go off sex wen I'm pregnant so the lack of it didn't bother me. But it hasn't improve in the last 14 since our son was born. During my pregnancy, we made love 2-3 times and since the birth, 3 times. Our wedding anniversary in may, a week later and the 28th August. I know he is stressed a little at work and taking on me and 3 boys plus a new baby is hard but if I try and seduce him he pushes me away. Cuddles are habit like in bed, he'll put his arm over me and I get a quick peck goodbye before work. He says it's him not me but I don't believe him. I have put on weight with the baby etc but he says that doesn't matter. I am now on anti depressants and really can't take the rejection anymore. Help me please, I don't want to split but don't know what else to do to be happy. He just won't talk to me.

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Hi Rainbow,

I am sorry to hear about your situation. As women, we tend to feel emotionally attached during sex and therefore, the lack of it may certainly be causing these feelings.

There is no majic wand that will solve your complaints. Talking and working things out with your husband is the first step. If he doesn't want to talk about it, then make it an obvious issue. You always have choices to leave if you are miserable but trying hard to make things work should be the first step but no one can force him. He must want change also.

Good luck,


April 15, 2012 - 7:57am
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