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Why is his sexual desire waning when our relationship is deepening?

By July 28, 2009 - 5:25pm
 
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I have been with my boyfriend now for six months. In the beginning I was the one more open and ready for a relationship. He was more reluctant. It seems that in the beginning he was more interested in sex than now. He is 55 and I am 48. Our relationship has deepened and now I find that I am the one initiating more and he is less interested. It is often frustrating for me. I asked him today if everything was okay between us and he said yes. He said that now that he has more feelings for me he doesn't "just" want to have sex all the time, but wants it to be more of a meaningful encounter !! I am sort of stumped by his answer, as I don't know if he isn't being completely honest with me or that its something else !!??? He has become more emotionally warm and he is very affectionate...but I don't understand his seeming withdrawal sexually. We are only having sex about once or twice a week (and I am using sex toys to relieve tension in between). I am concerned since we are still in the "honeymoon' stage of our relationship and fear that it will only get worse as time goes on. I am not even sure how to handle the situation without hurting his feelings and making him feel bad. I care about him so much and our relationship and I want this to work..Help!!

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Passion 8,

I have been going through the same issues. I read somewhere that women with higher sex drives than their men should remember "quality not quantity". it could be that he just wants the experience to be more than just "sex". don't know if this will help, just wanted to state my opinion.

January 23, 2010 - 12:52am

I'm going to suppose that, at your ages, you've both already had previous relationships. I suggest you just back off a bit and give the man some space. Personally, it sounds like you're not really listening to what he's telling you. There's more to a caring and loving relationship than sex.

Think about it. If your relationship is meant to last, you two WILL communicate and find the balance between you.

July 28, 2009 - 7:34pm
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