My boyfriend and I have been together for five years now, he's 21 and I'm 22. We've lived together for a year and a half. We very rarely have sex, maybe on e every other week, and I'm initiating it 98% of the time. I started feeling like something was wrong with me, maybe my sex drive was too high or maybe he wasn't as attracted to me as he used to be. When we first started having sex (we are each others first) it was frequent, at least 3 times a week, but I was still doing the majority of the initiating. I've tried to talk to him about it, letting him know how it makes me feel unwanted and that I'm scared we might be losing the passion and intimacy that we had. I asked him if he felt he needed more, or if something was wrong, with either him or me, but he says there's nothing. He says he's still very attracted to me, but that he doesn't think about sex often or feel aroused often. I told him that we could try new things, that maybe this would help, but he says its him. He admits that he knows he's not being the best partner and not giving me what he knows I deserve, but he can't explain why he's doing it/not doing it, and he continues to ignore me physically. I don't know what more to say or do. I love him and want to be with him, but I honestly cannot take this kind of rejection and not feel wanted in a relationship. What can I do to help us get through this?
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