share: Ask EmpowHer's Sex Expert Dr. Marty Klein Anything
Dr. Marty Klein -- A member of EmpowHer's Medical Advisory Board, marriage counselor and sex expert is looking to answer your most intimate sex questions. Our founder Michelle King Robson and our content director Todd Hartley will be asking Dr. Klein your questions on Monday, April 13, so be sure to submit your questions before then.
*No question is too embarrassing to ask Dr. Klein.
If you have a question, you can post it anonymously in the box below.
To find out more about Dr. Klein, to see his videos and to read previous questions and answers, click on this link.
Visit Dr. Klein on the web click on this link.
All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.
Add a Comment22 Comments
Dr. Klein, what can my husband and I do if we both have different views of sexual fantasies?
He believes in living them out, I believe in keeping them fantasies.
How can we meet in the middle?
How do I talk with him about this?
I'll look forward to hearing your insights.
April 6, 2009 - 3:32pmThis Comment
Dr. Klein, my boyfriend really wants to try anal sex, but I'm not so sure. It seems like it would be painful. He tells me that women can have orgasms, even multiple orgasms, with anal sex. This doesn't seem possible.... is it true?
April 7, 2009 - 11:29amI had been curious about anal sex myself, and when I started dating my current boyfriend, I felt comfortable enough with him to initiate trying. Now I absolutely love it and we have made it a semi-regular part of our sex, as it always makes me orgasm and very quickly. I think the most important part of trying anal is knowing that you have to work up to it, or else it can be painful or unenjoyable. You can start by buying a butt plug or anal dildo to help yourself adjust to the intensity of the feeling without feeling obligated to continue. It is also a good way to literally loosen up a little bit before you start actually practicing anal sex (don't worry, it will tighten back up!). From there, you can start with very slow penetration and eventually will move on to more moderate or even, uh, enthusiastic, sex. You MUST treat this part of your body gently, as with your genital parts, and LOTS OF LUBRICATION is important as well. If he is not willing to be patient with you and make it a comfortable process, than he is probably not the person to try it with. Also note that anal sex is a high risk intercourse as far as STDs and other complications go. But yes, I do orgasm regularly and sometimes multiple times from it.
November 24, 2009 - 6:29pmDear Dr. Klein,
I get really upset whenever my boyfriend mentions any previous girlfriends, or things he did with them sexually. And yet I'm also curious, so when he starts mentioning his sexual history, I can't help but want to know. But then I get really sad and jealous afterwards and probably dwell on it too much. Would it be better just not to know or ask about his history?
April 7, 2009 - 1:13pmI am having a very big issue with my sex drive. At times I have a very high libido and at other times I might go a month where the last thing on my mind is sex or getting intimate. Is this a part of natural hormone cycles? It is not following my menstrual cycle - and at times I might go two months where I cannot even think about sex. Is there anything I can do to make my libido more even keel?
Thanks
April 7, 2009 - 1:34pmWhat do you suggest a couple do to spice up their sex life?
April 7, 2009 - 2:32pmWe know that menopause affects our sex drive, so what can we do to improve it?
April 7, 2009 - 4:06pmI'm a newlywed and absolutely adore my new husband. I'm so happy to be married to him. There's just one issue that keeps popping up as a challenge, and it has to do with the way we communicate. Or maybe it's the way we think and communicate. Anyway, I'm more of a "big picture" kind of person and really don't like to talk, and he is very detail-oriented and loves to talk through details, over and over again. I tease him that he's more like a woman in that way, which of course he doesn't appreciate, but it really drives me crazy to talk through things in great detail when I'm ready to move on to the next thing and then the next (I guess I don't have a lot of patience). And sometimes he'll ask me what I think is a rhetorical question, and I won't answer it, but then he'll get frustrated because it wasn't really rhetorical and he thinks I'm ignoring him. So what does someone who isn't into talking do with a spouse who talks things up and down and sideways?....
April 13, 2009 - 11:27amHow can you encourage your spouse/partner to step up to the plate and take on more of a decision-making role in your relationship? I've noticed that over the years I have to make all the decisions weather small or large in our marriage, why is that? I want the input but always get the same answer "doesn't matter to me." How can I express how important his input is without getting upset about it?
April 13, 2009 - 11:54amHow do I tell my partner that he should be more inventive sexually?
April 13, 2009 - 11:56am