Times running out and I am facing a delima (Not sure if I spelt that right) I want to have a baby but I always thought that Mr right would come along to have a baby with but this has not happened. A friend has a friend who is gay who has always wanted a baby she says hes really nice has a good job and would make a great dad who would share the responsibility of having a baby. This sounds good in the fact that my child would have two parents that would love them very much I have not met this guy yet so to soon to say whether having a bay with him would be an option but it seems unfair that I should not have children because I am single and would really love to share the experience with the man I love but have not been that lucky. Would like advice on this.
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Hi Toni,
The only thing I can say is don't jump into something just because of your age. I understand your need and want to have children before you get any older, but doing it with someone who you have never even met may not be the best idea.
Perhaps looking into sperm donation would be the best option for you if you are concerned about how you will raise this child with someone who you have no information on other than what your friend has told you.
I don't want to sound discouraging but please do take precaution before proceeding with having a child with a stranger.
Good Luck!
September 7, 2009 - 6:22amThis Comment
I don't believe any of us can give you "advice" if you have not even met this man. Being nice, financially independent is irrelevant if you two are not able to have a relationship (even non-sexual) that includes similar interests and trust in each other regarding a range of topics: raising a child, religion, family values, family traditions, schools, culture, meeting each other's extended families (read: future grandparents!), parenting-styles, problem-solving styles, discipline...on and on. It takes years to know someone in this manner, as parenting is one of the toughest jobs that you would have to do together.
There are options for single women to have babies, as there are sperm donors, as well as many babies that need adopting. You may also be "lucky" and hit it off with this male partner, but I hope you aren't putting all of your hopes into this one encounter. If you want to parent with the "right man", the opportunity may not present itself until you are already a parent (if you choose sperm donation or adopting options)...I would keep your mind and options open for many alternatives.
September 6, 2009 - 8:22pmThis Comment