Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Well dry sex is really hazardous and most common reason for sexual intercourse pain.
December 24, 2012 - 1:41amThis Comment
My bf and I were dryhumping. I had underwear, shorts and sweatpants on. He had briefs and shorts on. I was also on the second day of my period. I was not worried at the time, but now my period is two week late. Should I be concerened? Thanks.
December 12, 2012 - 11:43amThis Comment
Ok hear my scenario, me n my boyfriend was dry humping and we were fully clothed i had on a jeans pants and he had on a shorts, after that he cummed in his shorts and it rubbed against my jeans pants n catch me on my leg... after that i went to the bathroom and used my rag and towel to wipe my leg..that happened saturday night and i was sooo worried that i was pregnant. monday my period came and it was fine and normal however i used the same rag and towel which i used to wipe the sperm saturday night to wipe my self sunday and monday...also my period ended the following saturday...im just worrying that i might be pregnant and im soo stressed with this situation please answer me urgently so my mind can be at rest!!!!!!!!!!!!!
December 12, 2012 - 10:16amThis Comment
so the other day my boyfriend & i were making out &things got intense so we started dry humping. I am still a virgin and plan on staying one for a long time( i dont like the risk of becoming pregnant because i have a future ahead of me & rather be safe then sorry) so i thought this would be a fun thing to do without actual sex and i thought its totally harmless. but anyway i read online that pregnancy can occur with dry humping and it totally freaked me out & i am sooo paranoid now! I was wondering how possible it would be in my situation. We both were fully clothed he had boxers and jeans on & i had underwear & leggings. I have no idea if he ejaculated or precummed. i didnt notice or see anything besides my own wetness. Im just freaked out because i keep thinking what if he did ejaculate or something & the sperm got its way through our clothes & could get me pregnant! he never "slipped" or anything like that it was just the good ol grinding with clothes. But im still paranoid so can someone ease my mind & help me relax please! This is really getting to me and i cannot stop worrying. Everytime i think of it i get a sick to my stomach feeling and i hate it. I just wanna break down & cry because im worried sick. I just need reassurance with my situation
December 8, 2012 - 1:31pmThis Comment
Did anything happen to you?
November 23, 2013 - 10:43pmThis Comment
I was with my bf in his car and we both had no pants on and no condom either, he rubbed. His penis near my vagina but he don't come can I get pregnant, I was wet
November 29, 2012 - 12:35pmThis Comment
I have a question...as a child, a "trusted" woman (she was probably in her early teens) had repeatedly dry humped me for a time period of idk how long. It's too late for me to do anything about it legally now, but I would like to know: did that count as sexual abuse?
November 19, 2012 - 3:43pmThis Comment
Please answer me because I spent the whole night crying. 2 months ago me and my ex boyfriend dry humped twice on a train the first one was he dry humped me full dressed from behind and he came. Second time was a few hours later at my house, we were dry humping for about 5 minutes full dressed I had skirt and a legging along with my underwear on and he had his jeans and boxer. somehow he toke his penis out and pulled my legging down so I was only with my underwear and it was soaking wet actually and he had nothing on at that moment. a few minutes later he pulled his self really fast and spilled cum on my thigh I felt that but am not sure if it was on my underwear too. the same night I went to the toilet and found little brownish reddish spotting on the toilet paper with no pain and I'm a virgin so I freaked out. a few days later I stated feeling cramps and my breast got sore really painful and tender tiredness and headache and also back pain saw a little light blood and my period disappeared, even tho I still feel it after two weeks I got my period. I was this whole year fat so I can't even see if am pregnant from my stomach and I can't do a test for some reasons. anyway its been the second month and I got my period regularly BUT!!! am still scared to death after watching that stupid show I didn't know I was pregnant and I'm regretting everything now and we broke up already so I don't want his child.
thanks for reading and I hope that you will answer me.
November 19, 2012 - 12:19pmRegards,
Lisa
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hi... i was a bit worried as i am approaching my period... around my ovulation time(just after periods) i had dry sex, but during that we realized that our inner wear were a bit wet...it was definately not semen...but might have been pre cum...nd inside mine was my own fluid... do u think that precum and vaginal fluid can combine with two layers of cloth in between? please help as i am stressing a lot
November 15, 2012 - 12:45pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
I think you can relax. Fully clothed, there is no chance that you could become pregnant. Semen cannot penetrate your clothing.
Maryann
November 15, 2012 - 6:23pmThis Comment