Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi, I'm 16 & me and my boyfriend have dry humped with both of our underwear off & he's never 'cummed'. But I'm worried if I could be pregnant because of the pre-cum. He's never went inside my hole or anything but he has rubbed his penis in between the flaps on the side& on my my hole a little .. could I be pregnant?
February 16, 2014 - 4:19pmThis Comment
My boyfriend had his underwear and shorts on while I was naked and we were dry humping. He might have had some pre cum inside his underwear. Is there anything to be worried about?
January 11, 2014 - 2:10pmThis Comment
I had my underwear and shorts on while my girlfriend was naked. We were dry humping. I might have some pre cum inside my underwear. Is there anything to be worried about?
January 11, 2014 - 2:04pmThis Comment
Okay so im 15 and I know this post may seem really stupid but its got me worrying. Me and my boyfriend have never had sexual intercourse or anything like that, though we've made out and kissed and cuddled (all with clothes on). However, one day when we were alone we were kissing and it became really heated, he went to move up to kiss me on my neck (we were laying on a couch) when he rubbed up against me with his clothes on, I had mine on too. Then he kept doing that, rubning up against me fast paced and i was freaking out but it felt right at the time. So yeah I've been stressing because he said that he ej****** and i was kind of wet down there too but i had underwear on and jean shorts on and so did he. Could I be pregnant ? Its really stressing me out please help me. Is there a possibility to get pregnant without having sex and rubbing against your partner full clothed? we've done it a few times now i think twice... Im so scared I'm not really educated on this stuff so someone please help me.
January 9, 2014 - 4:15amKind regards, penelope
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Hi,
Me and my bf were "dry humping" and he was thrusting his penis right on top of my vagina,igot very wet and he said he had a lot of precum, i was wearing panties and jeans and he was wearing thin underwear, thin shorts and sleeping pants and i noticed he had a wet spot on his shorts, i felt wet inside my panties and i checked my jeans and i couldnt feel anything wet on the outside but my panties were, im scared breathless , please help me!
November 24, 2013 - 11:18pmThis Comment
hey well i am a little scarred. my bf and i were dry humping, but he was just wearing briefs. i took my underwear off. but then he fingered me really hard and fast. (note: i've never had sex before but he popped my cherry with his finger once..it was a while ago though). but he was doing it really hard and fast. and ever since, i been feeling a little sore from my vagina, and it sometimes feels really itchy. he went down on me, but it is not the first time. i shave regularly, so i dont know what it is. is this very uncomfortable itch right in the middle. please help ! am really scared about STDs!
November 16, 2013 - 12:44amThis Comment
I was giving my boyfriend a blowjob and he didn't cum but I was usuaing y hands too while I blew him. Once I was done he layed me on the bed and started fingering me for three minutes or so . After he finished fingering me he made me put the condom on with my hands . My question is since he didn't cum when I blew him there's no chance that there would be anything on my hands when I slid the condom on him. He then came in the condom after we had sex. Should I be worried ?
November 15, 2013 - 9:20pmThis Comment
I was giving my boyfriend a blowjob and he didn't cum but I was usuaing y hands too while I blew him. Once I was done he layed me on the bed and started fingering me for three minutes or so . After he finished fingering me he made me put the condom on with my hands . My question is since he didn't cum when I blew him there's no chance that there would be anything on my hands when I slid the condom on him. He then came in the condom after we had sex. Should I be worried ?
November 15, 2013 - 9:07pmThis Comment
My boy friebd abd i were messing around last night and he start robbing it on top of my "behind" then he did cum but outside and im sure that we didn't have anal sex since i didnt felt anything going in and i had my underwear on but am so scared and cant stop thinking about it.. Im still a virgin but what if his semens went in and got into my vagina.. When he cum it was all outside and kind of on my back and he wiped it right the way with a clean clothes. And i have brownish stuff showing too...
November 1, 2013 - 3:01pmThis Comment
my bf and i were having fun and he touch his wet penis afterwards he fingered me, i am afraid i will got pregnant pls help me... is there a possibility to get pregnant with this situation? I am already wet and his penis touch mine but he doesn't ejaculate inside me... im afraid i might got pregnant,..
October 25, 2013 - 2:42amThis Comment