Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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If I was wearing panties, but they were wet and my boyfriend was completely naked while humping me but didn't cum. Is there an chance I could've gotten pregnant?
June 5, 2014 - 2:51amThis Comment
me n my gf were dry humping without any clothes..!
June 3, 2014 - 6:03ami didnt released near her vagina..
bt she is having back pain...
is she pregnant..??
n also if i cum in my underwear n it touches her vagina..
is this any prob..??
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Two nights ago, I was really drunk and my friend started kissing me. I didn't want to so I went to sleep, but woke up because he was kissing me again. I felt my shorts (which were polyester) and they had cum on them. I had cotton underwear underneath and I think my friend had his underwear off. I took my shorts off and went in the bathroom to wipe it off, but some got on my inner upper thigh and I'm really scared it got in me. It's only been about 55 hours since then so I think I could still get plan b. Should I? I'm really scared (and really mad at my friend). I think I was ovulating yesterday (about 40 hours after the incident) so is that bad? Help me because I'm terrified
May 30, 2014 - 8:14amThis Comment
Hey. Me & my boyfriend were both naked & he put his penis between my legs & we started humping. He cum a minute later. Could I get pregnant since his dick was close to my vagina but not in it & he cummed !? Please help. Need answer ASAP!!
May 29, 2014 - 12:14pmThis Comment
I was dry humping with my boyfriend but he took off his boxers and I was wearing my jeans but my jeans is kinda not that thick denim is there any possibility that I may get pregnant with him rubbing his penis against my vagina with the previous jeans on?
May 24, 2014 - 9:16pmThis Comment
I forgot to say that he cummed while doing it
May 24, 2014 - 9:18pmThis Comment
Me and my boyfriend were hanging out at his house last weekend. Now I am very adamant about remaining abstinent but have found that increasingly hard after discoring that I am quite 'kinky' over a series of non penatrative activities with my partner. So when he grabbed me from behind and started dry humping me I am ashamed to say I did not stop him.
May 24, 2014 - 5:35pmI was wearing leggings (and underwear underneath) whilst his erection was completely uncovered. Sorry to be so explicit but he was pressing his penis against my entrance through my leggings and underwear (quite roughly) ;in what I believe to be a vivid imitation of the actual act. He came there and I quickly changed afterward, could I have gotten pregnant?
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Me and my boyfriend were hanging out at his house last weekend. Now I am very adamant about remaining abstinent but have found that increasingly hard after discoring that I am quite 'kinky' over a series of non penatrative activities with my partner. So when he grabbed me from behind and started dry humping me I am ashamed to say I did not stop him.
May 24, 2014 - 5:33pmI was wearing leggings (and underwear underneath) whilst his erection was completely uncovered. Sorry to be so explicit but he was pressing his penis against my entrance through my leggings and underwear (quite roughly) ;in what I believe to be a vivid imitation of the actual act. He came there and I quickly changed afterward, could I have gotten pregnant?
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OMG! What happened? Did you end up getting pregnant?
June 6, 2014 - 4:01pmThis Comment
Hi, I was with my bf and it got abit heated and he took off his trousers and I lifted my skirt. He was wearing boxers and I was wearing a thong. He did not cum although I was very wet and his boxers were too. Is this safe? Could the precum have got me pregnant?
May 20, 2014 - 10:42amThis Comment