Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi there my question is my boyfriend and I were dry humping I had my underwear on he had nothing on my period was supposed to start that day But nothing 9 days later I got it but it was very light compared to other periods . Then I read a article about decidual bleeding could that have been it instead of my period
January 23, 2015 - 9:34amThis Comment
When do you think is a good age for a girle to have normal sex? I am almost 17 and i want to have sex, but my mom is freaking out and telling me that i'm too young for it. The truth is, that i also am a bit afraid because i don't want to do something that will be bad for my health. Am i too young, or it is a good age, taking my organs and hormones into account?
January 17, 2015 - 5:54pmThis Comment
"ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing" so? There is still have a chance if someone do dry humps with clothes on and did ejaculate on his multiple layers and impragnate the girl with multiple layers of clothes too?
Oh ya, I have a stupid question. Is there a case that someone getting pregnant from dry hump with clothes on and still have her period for 3 months?
Reply this girl, thanks.
I'll be back if I still had a period to make all of you who read this post shoudn't worried at all. Thanks.
January 16, 2015 - 3:28pmThis Comment
okay so, my boyfriend and I were dry humping a little but he had masterbated and his sperm touched my finger but I wiped it off and he did the same. 10-20 minutes later his finger was almost in me and I'm scared that his sperm was still alive. how long does sperm live exactly? and am I safe?
January 16, 2015 - 3:24pmThis Comment
Me and my boyfriend were dry humping last week! I was wearing my underwear but my vagina might have been exposed some times. He was wearing underwear and his pants! Ι was wet and he was on top of me but i don't know if he was wet, too. By the way i feel my belly hurt a bit. Is there any chance i'm pregnant?
January 14, 2015 - 1:26pmThis Comment
Please please please help. My bf and I were making out on the 22 OD December and things got really intense. He'd been rubbing me pretty hard down here through my yoga pants (and I had a thing on underneath) and he had jeans on. He then put his hand down my pants and put his finger right on the edge of vagina. He asked if he could finger me and I decided no, so he went back to rubbing me. He never put his finger directly in my vagina but I have no idea if he had touched himself before he did that or not. I also was on my period during this and I though I was basically done so I had a super thin panty-liner on. The. We got up and went to lunch,mi went to the bathroom and discovered I started to bleed a little heavy so I put a pad on and nothing came close to as intense as it was after that. Is there a chance I got pregnant? Please please please, I'm freaking out so much and I know i shouldn't have let things get as far as they did but if I get pregnant I lose all my opportunities and my family in no way will understand! Help!!!
January 8, 2015 - 7:23pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
You can relax. There was never a risk of becoming pregnant because all this happened while you were having your period.
Now would be a good time to learn more about how conception happens. Take a look at this slide show:
Am I Pregnant?: Myths and Facts About Sex
https://www.empowher.com/pregnancy/content/am-i-pregnant-myths-and-facts...
Regards,
January 9, 2015 - 9:56amMaryann
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Hi there, my boyfriend and I were fooling around a little bit. I had no underwear on but he has shorts and underwear & we dryhumped. Am i in risk of pregnancy?
January 3, 2015 - 5:28amThis Comment
I was dry humping with my boyfriend and he had his boxers and sports shorts however he was wet and we were rubbing each other parts and I had my underwear . I got my period dec 6 (a week after dry humping) but I got a brown discharge lastnight , am i pregnat ?
December 27, 2014 - 12:31amThis Comment
hi
December 9, 2014 - 7:17pmI was wondering is this sex or something else, im a bit confused. it was ages ago,when I was with this guy and we were in his room. I was wearing pants and very thin summer trousers and he was bare thrusting hard and rubbing in and out of me. it seem that he didn't feel any pain. i can't remember if his penis was inside or not but i did remember then next day i was still very active and felt him all over me including the thrusting dose that mean he penetrated me with cloths on? it felt like he did. and can you lose your virginity like that?
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