Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi, Susan
June 26, 2015 - 8:48amMe and my bf kind of messed around this morning. He was very nervous because we were at our friend's house and her parents were sleeping downstairs so he wasn't hard, you know. At some point we rubbed our genitals for like 5 seconds bc after that he said it wasn't quite right and we stopped. A little later he touched me down there but didn't put his finger inside. He didn't ejaculate at all but he said he was wet when we rubbed. I read some things about pre-cum but I hope it wasn't sperm there bc he peed right before we did this. The thing that frightens me is that my ovulation period was supposed to last until the 25th of June. We did this on 26th at 6 in the morning. Now I have 13 days to wait until I get my period and I'm freaking out. I also read that stress can delay menstruation and I definetly don't want that. I'm scared to death that I might be pregnant. Please help me :(
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Hello Anonymous,
Please try to relax because stressing over this can delay the start of your period.
I do not think you were at risk for becoming pregnant. There was no penetration and no ejaculation.
Regards,
June 26, 2015 - 4:05pmMaryann
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I know there is such a thing as pre ejaculation... We didn't have sex but we were close. I'm not sure on how this works being that I am a virgin and new to all of this but I'm late on my period and idk if it's because of this. He never went inside but his genitals were running against mine for quite some time... This is basically the same situation that these girls experienced. It's "dry" nude sex. Is there any chance I can be pregnant. I know the only way to know is by taking a test but idk if I'm being crazy and stressing it out which is delaying my period. I've never had to worry about anything like this before so to be honest my period can be unexpected sometimes but I just need peace in mind bc this is stressing me out too much.
June 22, 2015 - 10:02pmThis Comment
Okay so yesterday me and my friend was dry humping and then he fingered me but i wasn't wet and not the right side of my vagina is swollen is this just from irritation?
May 25, 2015 - 4:18amThis Comment
Why no one is replying to my post earlier.
I'm so worried, the spotting was light for few days and once had a normal flow it all shows on my panty liner. Now it stopped
May 17, 2015 - 11:19pmWhat does it mean?
Is the spotting and normal flow once or maybe twice mean that i'm pregnant?
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Why no one is replying to my post earlier.
I'm so worried, the spotting was light for few days and once had a normal flow it all shows on my panty liner. Now it stopped
May 17, 2015 - 11:19pmWhat does it mean?
Is the spotting and normal flow once or maybe twice mean that i'm pregnant?
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I had the same situation as the last girl, touching and rubbing with him ejaculating on top of my vegina and sliding down.. But i didn't have my period yet although the same day that i was with my boyfriend and a few days after i had some spotting, is it possible i could be pregnant?
May 17, 2015 - 5:59amThis Comment
whenever penis and your vagina had contact and ejaculation on the vulva there's always have a lil chances.
May 18, 2015 - 3:56amThis Comment
A few days ago i was with my boyfriend and we had no penetration although there was touching and rubbing a lot, with so much intemacy there was an ejaculation on the out side of my ass hole then it slid till my vegina, but quickly went to wash it off.
May 15, 2015 - 6:21amI am scared of the possibility of getting pregnant although we didn't do any penetration
Is it really possible??
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Hi! Please help me with this. About 16 days ago my boyfriend and I dry hump then he ejaculated and pee. Then we continue the second time. When I felt my underwear was wet I told him to stop and then I used my hand to check if it was b of me or bc of him. I touched the outside of my underwear and then I forgot and I continued to use that hand to touch my vagina. About 7 days after I saw a little bit blood just a little bit viscid substance.. My period is never stable. But compare to last month, Now this month I have had my period late for 3 days. I have a pain in my breasts. Is there any chance that I'm pregnant? Or my breast pain just bc I'm gonna have my period? Bc my period is not stable. And I have been under stress for weeks bc I'm having my finals exam. I'm still a virgin haven't had intercourse before.
May 14, 2015 - 11:10amThis Comment