Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hello anon93,
Yes. There was no risk for pregnancy because he was wearing boxers. Sperm cannot pass through fabric.
Maryann
August 27, 2015 - 8:14amThis Comment
Thank you so much. God bless you and your whole team.
August 27, 2015 - 3:06pmThis Comment
Can I get pregnant if we dry humped with only underwear on mine had a part that were lace the top and it had a little bit of a ripped hole. I was fertile, he didn't cum but had a spot on his underwear. It was only for about 30 seconds because I told him to stop. I've been freaking out and this happened a week ago today. My period is said to come this Friday but I'm scared that because I'm stressing out it may be missed or delayed. I've been doing research on this topic most say you can't but other day you can so I'm confused. Please answer I need some reassurance. I'm only 16.
August 22, 2015 - 11:37amThis Comment
Can I get pregnant if my boyfriend and I made out while clothed, but I put my hands in his jeans and touched his penis (he still has his underwear on). I did wash my hands afterwards before touching my vagina.
August 17, 2015 - 7:09amThis Comment
My boyfriend and I have had dry sex in the past and it always gave me anxiety, so we quit. My last period was July 2 and on July 22, I was laying with my boyfriend and had my leg wrapped around his waist/hips while we made out. I'm not sure if he got hard or even ejaculted, but let's think worst case scenario. Okay, so if he were to have fully ejaculted while he wore cotton briefs and jeans (which may have slid down because he didn't have a belt and they kept falling down), and I was wearing cotton panties and khaki pants (the kind you would wear to work). Could sperm get through those 3-4 layers of clothes if our bodies were just pressed together with no rubbing? My cycle is 31-37 days usually (very irregular due to PCOS ) but I still haven't gotten my period this month.
August 13, 2015 - 4:53amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
No, sperm could not get through the layers of clothing.
With a history of PCOS and stressing out about the possibility for pregnancy, it is not surprising that you have not started your period.
Relax, there was no risk for pregnancy.
Anonymous, has your gynecologist suggested oral contraceptives to help with PCOS?
Regards,
August 13, 2015 - 9:05amMaryann
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Yes my doctor has given me oral birth control pills, but I have to wait until my period comes to start them. This is why I'm so stressed about this period because of that experience. I haven't had a pregnancy test, but that would be unnecessary, right? Since I didn't have a risk...
August 14, 2015 - 2:15pmThis Comment
Hi! I had the same problem. My period was on june30 to july2 and im irregular. Today is august 12th and i havent had my period yet. My bf did not insert nor came close his penis to my vagina. Is it possible that im pregnant? I gave him oral sex on august6. I do not feel any pregnancy symtoms. Please answer this thank you!!!!!
August 11, 2015 - 10:05pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Unless you had unprotected vaginal intercourse, you would not be pregnant. You could take a home pregnancy test to be sure.
Regards,
August 12, 2015 - 8:05amMaryann
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Hi! I had my period on june 30 up to july 2 and it's aug12 already i didnt have my period for july. Is it possible that my period for july was on july1 and 2? Or am i pregnant? My bf and i didnt have sex just dry humping thank you so much!!
August 11, 2015 - 9:35amThis Comment