Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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So me and my partner were dry humping and things got a little heated, we're both kind of OCD so i wear a condom even for this (I know it's excessive) under my boxers she was wearing knickers, anyway I moved her knickers away from her vagina and my penis was rubbing against it but with both the condom and boxers on, I later discovered that the condom broke, now we're stressing because its also 15 days into a her regular cycle could she be pregnant?
September 28, 2015 - 6:50amThis Comment
Hello, on Saturday I was wearing leggings and underwear. My boyfriend came but not directly on me and I cleaned him up before we laid down. My period was due the next day, but it has been a week and it still hasn't come. Should I be worried?? Thank you so much!!
September 26, 2015 - 1:13pmThis Comment
Hi. So me and my girlfriend were dry humping. And i had basketball shorts on and boxers. she had biking shorts on and underwear. We were drying humping and i came in my shorts and boxers and we were still dry humping. But after i was done cumming i got off of her and went to bathroom to change. Im very scared she is pregnant because of this. She has been feeling very wierd and having crampz but then also not. She says it does feel like her peiod is coming but not. She is due the 20th but she dosnt think she is going to start. We are scared that she is pregnant. Can she be pregnant from this experience?
September 19, 2015 - 11:22amThis Comment
Hi. My Girlfriend and I dry humped with I had boxers on and briefs. She had a Panties and Cycling-Shorts on. I Had a question can my penis penetrated into her vagina even with clothes on? And I notice that a i had a little bit pre-ejaculate on my briefs could this cause a pregnancy even that i didn't ejaculate through her?
September 12, 2015 - 10:21amThis Comment
Me and my Girlfriend dry humped with Briefs on and boxers. She had her panties and cycling short. I had a little pre-cum in my brief. I don't know if my penis penetrated into her vagina even we had underwears.
September 12, 2015 - 10:04amCan you get penetrated even with clothes on?
Can she be pregnant in these scenario?
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Me and my boyfriend dry humped and i was wearing jeans and he was wearing sweat pants, is there a possibility of pregnancy here?
September 9, 2015 - 3:40pmThis Comment
Hello. I know i left two comments before this but now i have a slightly different question to ask. I got my period last friday (today is sunday) and two days before that i dry humped. I was grateful for getting my period but i also read that women can get pregnant while having period so this really freaks me out!!! I am on my third day of period and tho the bleeding arent like an implantation bleeding, which im certain of, but my period is lighter than usual. My period is usually heavy for the first three days that it fills up my pad fast. But now its slightly lighter. Is this cause im pregnant or due to the stress im having? And to add my period came a week early so this worries me too. Please reply. Thank you :'(
August 29, 2015 - 7:56pmThis Comment
Hello. My boyfriend and i are 22 years old and yesterday we had an outercourse and in two weeks i am scheduled to have my my period which also means (i think) that i am in the stage of ovulating. I was not wearing any panties at the time and was lying next to him when he ejaculated in his boxer and i think a small amount of his semen spilled on my mattress. Currently both of us are stressed over the possibility of me being pregnant. Thus i would like to know that even though his penis wasn't in contact with my vagina, will it be possible for the sperm to travel from his boxer or from the mattress to my vagina? Im also scared about the fact that i might be ovulating and this would make me be impregnated. Please reply. :(
August 26, 2015 - 6:55amThis Comment
Hello anon93,
The answer is no. If you are not ready to become pregnant, please start using some form of birth control.
Maryann
August 26, 2015 - 9:17amThis Comment
Thank you so much for your reply. But is it really impossible if at that time only him was wearing a boxer and me with no panties on? Noth of us weren't even on top of one another but simply side by side. Just to be sure. After he ejaculated i put on my panties and he went off to shower. I showered after and vigorously washed my vagina.
August 26, 2015 - 9:33pmThis Comment