Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi, thanks for all the time you take to answer posts. It helps tremendously to be re assured.
So here goes my story.
My boyfriend dry humped three times and mostly concerned about the last two times during which he was wearing boxers and thermal trousers and I was wearing lace underwear, tights on top and a skirt (but that doesn't really count) were those 4 layers enough to prevent any sperm from coming in close contact? Undies dos feel wet but there was never any spotting.
Only asking because last time we dry humped was 26th second of 2015 and I'm 6 days late from my period. I'm a very anxious person and stressed over this fact of late period for two days now and bf is getting worked up too. Is it safe to say that there was no risk of getting pregnant that way?
Thanks
January 8, 2016 - 5:14pmThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
It is safe to say that because you were both wearing layers of clothing there was no risk of getting pregnant.
Stress can cause a delay in the start of your period. Try to relax.
Regards,
January 11, 2016 - 9:44amMaryann
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Ever since I started worrying about this I got swollen breaths and increased bowel movements. No sign of period yet. Is this all stress induced? I'm really worked up about this and have exams next week. I'm 20 years old
January 9, 2016 - 1:49amThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
Stress and anxiety can lead to frequent bowel movements. Stress can cause a delay in the start of your period. Try to relax.
Regards,
January 11, 2016 - 9:42amMaryann
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Is sanitary pad sperm-proof?
January 4, 2016 - 7:27pmCan sperm get into pad?
What is the percentage for sperm to get through a pad?
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Hello Anonymous,
Sperm cannot penetrate or pass through a sanitary pad.
Regards,
January 5, 2016 - 9:40amMaryann
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hi thanks for answering as im quite paranoid, but may i know why?mind explaining to me that why it wont pass through it? and also is there any slim percentage like 0.01% of sperm getting through it? or 0% , hope you understand what im trying to say and thanks alot!
January 5, 2016 - 9:50amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Sperm are so tiny that you can only see them under a microscope.
A sanitary pad is dense and made of layers of absorbent material. It absorbs menstrual flow. Nothing can pass into it.
Maryann
January 5, 2016 - 10:11amThis Comment
Hi, so its 0% for sperm to get through a sanitary pad?
January 5, 2016 - 5:23pmThis Comment
Hi , my girlfriend and i had a outercourse, i am on top of her, i am wearing nothing while she is wearing a fbt shorts, panties, and a pad(she is having period that time), we began rubbing one another on our private parts and i pre-cum on her fbt shorts(have wet stains) , may i know will i got her pregnant? And may i know what are the wet stains contain
January 4, 2016 - 12:13amThis Comment