Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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My girlfriend had her last period on the 6th of April!She has taken up an army workout regime since 24th April.We made out on the 30th and I fingered her and inserted my finger and I m sure I was very careful!!She is 3 days late now and she doesn't have her pms as well!Is the delay in period because of the heavy workout or are there chances of her being pregnant?Please help!I am lost!
May 7, 2016 - 7:29amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
A marked increase in physical activity, such as an army workout regime, is very likely the reason your girlfriend's period is late.
Pregnancy would not be likely if she has not had unprotected vaginal intercourse since her last period.
Maryann
May 9, 2016 - 9:45amThis Comment
Me and my gf had dry humping at the first time after that she feels on her vigina a irritation on her clitoris and labia minora...is it normal for her to feel it...after all its our first time we dont know if its normal
May 1, 2016 - 7:41amThis Comment
Is there a chance of pregnancy if there was no penetration? Only genitals grinding. And what if there was a precum on the vulva? How likely that pregnancy can occur? Thank you.
April 18, 2016 - 2:45amThis Comment
Hi,
April 5, 2016 - 2:43pmIs oral sex safer than sex? Is contraceptive needed or advisable?
What are the risks of oral sex if any? Thank you.
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Hi Anonymous,
There is no risk for pregnancy with oral sex.
However, performing oral sex on an HIV-infected man, with ejaculation in the mouth, is the riskiest oral sex activity.
Many STIs, including chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis, can be spread through oral sex. The chances of giving or getting STIs during oral sex can be lowered by using a condom or dental dam.
Regards,
April 6, 2016 - 9:13amMaryann
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Is there possibility of being pregnant if I was not wearing any underwear while my boyfriend is fingering me and he was lying by my side not wearing any undergarmemts also? I sure there is a precum but since he was at my side and he did not touched his penis, there was nothing on my vagina. I came without wearing underwear. After that I wore my panty before proceeding to his orgasm. He also came on my thighs but I was wearing my underwear. Is there risk of pregnancy in this situation? I'm now 5days late for my period. I'm so worried especially I'm not experiencing any PMS symptoms I usually have. I don't feel any symptoms that my period is coming. I'm only experiencing quite heavy vaginal white discharge. And I was also stressed during the middle of the month of March but I was able to rest now. I don't know if its still can affect my cycle if I was then stressed but I was able to get a reast before the date I'm expecting my period which is suppose to be March 30. I hope you can answer my questions. Thanks for your help in advance.
April 5, 2016 - 1:31amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There was no risk for becoming pregnant this way. However, high stress levels can cause a delay in the start of your period.
During periods of stress, the body produces more of the hormone called cortisol. In response, the body is triggered to shut down non-essential functions. The menstrual cycle is one such function.
Try as best as you can to relax. Your period should start.
Regards,
April 5, 2016 - 9:15amMaryann
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Thank you maryann. But what if there was a DROP of precm on my vulva? Is pregnancy possible? I am now 8 days late for my period. And I feel something moving on my lower abdomen. Also headaches and white quite watery discharge. Thanks
April 8, 2016 - 3:22amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Since this is causing you such concern, and your period is late by 8 days now, consider taking a home pregnancy test. For the most accurate result, test in the morning and use the first urine when you wake up.
Personally, I think stress is the reason you have not started your period.
Pre ejaculate fluid itself does not contain sperm. If your partner had a prior but recent ejaculatio, some sperm may have remained in his urethra and been in any pre ejacualate fluid. But, if he urinated before your sexual activity, any stowaway sperm was flushed out.
I don't know what you feel is moving in or on your lower abdomen. But it is not a developing baby.
Regards,
April 8, 2016 - 8:58amMaryann
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