Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Well, the thing is, she's not experiencing any kind of pain or pregnancy symptoms and she's all good. But she's still afraid afraid of taking the test cause she's all like "it's the moment of truth" but I'm suggesting that her delayed period is because of her massive stress.. anyway is it possible anyway to get pregnant by the way I mentioned above?^ and about the virginity as well, did she lose her virginity?
February 3, 2015 - 3:06pmThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
There has to be a reason your friend has not had a period for two months. The menstrual cycle is regulated by hormones. Any factor that upsets the balance- pregnancy, excessive stress or a problem with production of any of the hormones- can cause a missed or late period. Only a physician can diagnose the cause in your friend's case, if she doesn't take a home pregnancy test.
In general, loss of virginity is defined by having sexual intercourse, anal, oral or vaginal. Genital to genital contact carries a risk for pregnancy, especially if the female is ovulating and the male ejaculates.
I hope this helps,
Maryann
February 4, 2015 - 9:48amThis Comment
Please help!!! My girlfriend and I were dry humping... She had her knickers on for most of the time but for maybe 5 minutes had them off but I had my Boxers on all the time, I think I may have ejaculated.
Is it possible my girlfriend will get pregnant? She was in ovulation at the time... We're both worried
January 31, 2015 - 11:24amThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
You can both relax. There was no risk for pregnancy because you kept your boxers on the entire time. Even if you ejaculated, the sperm in semen cannot get through the cloth.
Regards,
February 2, 2015 - 9:53amMaryann
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Well she's starting to have pain which is like menstrual cramping but
February 8, 2015 - 9:39amThen goes on to hurt her whole belly, she needs to pee a lot and her period should start on Friday (28 days) is it possible that her period is starting early she doesn't normally experience these things before her menstruatibg begins
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Please answer as soon as possible! I dry humped with my bf and he ejaculated... we were both wearing our underwear and clothes. I was wearing 2 sweatpants but when i went in the bathroom i felt my inner sweatpant wet and i don't know if it was wet from my fluids or his. When we talked he told me that his sperm did hardly leave a mark on his pants so there's no possibility that i was wet from that. The point is that my period came a couple of days earlier than expected and my flow was not as strong as it usually is. During my 3rd day it was weaker and now that i'm on my 6th day it's turning brownish. If i was pregnant i was not going to have my period right? I just visited many sites because i am worried and i read a girl's confession who was pregnant after having dry sex and i'm REALLY freaking out! :(
January 28, 2015 - 7:32amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Try to relax and forget about the posts you read on other websites.
The truth is you cannot become pregnant by dry humping because you are wearing clothes and sperm cannot pass through fabric. The wetness you felt was your own vaginal lubrication.
I do not know why your period can earlier and flow is lighter than normal. It could simply be a variation of the norm, which is nothing to worry about. This happens to all women at some time in their reproductive years.
Regards,
January 28, 2015 - 10:31amMaryann
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so you are telling me that if i keep on dry humping with my bf with our clothes on i'm 101 % safe?
January 29, 2015 - 5:58amThis Comment
Yes.
January 29, 2015 - 10:57amThis Comment
OMG thanks a lot! This made me feel a lot better! I have a really close bond with my mom but i don't feel comfortable talking with her about stuff like that! Thanks alot miss Maryann
January 29, 2015 - 12:51pmThis Comment