Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hi,
May 17, 2014 - 2:55amwe where dry humping i was with a cotton pijama and my boxers and she was waering leggings and her panties and i ejaculated and we stay there like 2 minutes more can the sperms go all the way of this clothes and can she get pregnant?? ANSWER NOW PLEASE!!!
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Hello, well my boyfriend and i were making out and then we did dry humping. He took his boxers off but i insisted to keep my thick jeans on. So his penis was rubbing my vagina with my jeans on. Can i get pregnant? We also want to try it with me only wearing legging or soft cloth or just panties. Will this be dangerous.Thank you
May 1, 2014 - 6:29pmThis Comment
Help me out guys, if I was dry humping my boyfriend, I was wearung panties and thin cotton pijama pants and he was wearing boxers and sorta thin shorts and I didn't notice he came for like,8 seconds and then found that I was wer from my inner thigh to very close from my vulva's opening and I did feel his shorts were kinda wet, could I be pregnant? I've gotten my period regularly later in the month, same heavy bleeding for 5 days and same terrible cramps, but I've been feeling my heart beating stronger amd faster, some recent breast pains (since this weekend. I'm about to be on my period though if I'm not. I nearly never have that symptom though), and dispepsia (apparently I've been very stressed though). Besides that no need for frequent urination, no throwing up, no backpain, having less hunger than usual...Possibility?
April 9, 2014 - 3:00pmThis Comment
Hello. Me and my boyfriend were dry humping with all out clothes on and when he ejaculated some of my thighs and the side of my groin were wet and his shorts were somewhat humid. I was on the last day of my period (4th day) and had a tampon on my underwear. Is there a chance of pregnancy?
April 8, 2014 - 7:17pmThis Comment
Im only 15 and me and my girlfriend had what's considered as dry sex. Every time we do itshe gets wet, why does she get so wet and why does it feel so good to be on her.
March 19, 2014 - 8:21pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Sexual arousal is the reason. Be careful. You are both young,; I'm sure that is not what you wanted to hear. Take it slow. If you are both aroused, you may be tempted to go further. Wait until you are both more mature and please, use condoms and she should start using a regular form of birth control before you go any further.
Regards,
March 20, 2014 - 5:31pmMaryann
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Hey? So my boyfriend did penetrate into my vagina but with his boxers on...he didn't ejaculate but his underwear became quite wet from me. I didn't have any underwear on and I have noticed some spotting for the past two days. But today after I went to the toilet, I wiped and there was some bright blood. Is this implantation bleeding? Or is it simply bleeding a little becoz of the dry penetration?
February 22, 2014 - 5:18pmThis Comment
Me and my girlfriend were dry humping. I had boxer briefs on and she was completely naked. I had a little precum through my underwear and she was a little wet as well. If by any chance the wet precum came in contact with her outer or even inner labia, could she get pregnant? (I'm almost 100% sure there was no contact though)
February 21, 2014 - 6:38pmThis Comment
Helpful article
February 21, 2014 - 6:29pmThis Comment
Hi, me and my boyfriend have dry humped with our clothes off. We're both virgins. He's never put it in. But he was rubbing his penis in between the flaps& put it against my vagina . He never 'cummed' but I'm worried because there might have had pre-cum on his penis... could I be pregnant?
February 16, 2014 - 4:35pmThis Comment