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Morning Sex: Pros and Cons

 
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It’s a gender stereotype as familiar as the chocolate-crazed PMS lady: guys always want to have sex in the morning. Whenever my boyfriends would insist that they were horniest in the morning I would roll my eyes and chalk it up as another “88th reason we should have sex right now” speech. Finally, when I realized that dudes actually wake up each day with a hard-on, I decided to cut them some slack and research the subject.

Girls, today we’re going to learn a new term. It is Nocturnal Penile Tumescence (hehe), and it is basically the scientific term for random boners throughout the night, including, but not limited to, morning wood. The theory goes that when guys are awake they have the ability to push aside the thoughts that naturally occur as a result of their testosterone surges, while at night they have no such control. There’s also a more specific explanation which states that certain erection-suppressing neurons are shut off during REM sleep and thus enable more erections than usual.

Enough about that; the point is that your partner isn’t just yanking your chain when he insists that he’s the most turned on in the morning. So what’s a gal to do? If you’re like me, the thought of having sex in the morning is a little disgusting. You both have awful breath, your hair looks like a bird’s nest, and you’re not exactly feeling fresh down there.

The typical guy response to these quite reasonable objections is, “I don’t care!” But the problem is, we do care. We don’t want to have to suffer through sex, not in the morning, not ever. It has more to do with our mental state and our ability to get turned on than it does our vanity about how we look. Yeah yeah, you think I’m hot, I get it, but I’m just not into it right now.

Well, after years of going back and forth and having the same conversation over and over, I’ve finally settled on what I think is the best way to deal with the nagging request for morning sex. Just get up a few minutes before him and initiate it! You don't have to do it every day, or even every week, but every once in a while wake him up by fondling him or kissing him.

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I too prefer sex in the morning, but only slightly more than in the afternoon...or evening....or night time!
As for the issue of "morning glory", I read somewhere that the erection is caused by increased blood flow due to blood pressure rising as the guy wakes up. Whatever, it works for me!

April 16, 2011 - 2:06pm
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Anonymous

To be crude... just do it doggy-style. Morning breath? No problem.

April 7, 2011 - 7:57pm
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Anonymous

Well, I always loved sex in the morning. A few kisses and you don't notice any bad breath anymore. When you're just awake you're much softer in a certain way, less boundaries between you and him. I'll have sex in the morning anytime.

April 25, 2010 - 6:30am
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Anonymous

To be honest, I had always learned that men wake up with an erection in the morning because they need to pee. I don't usually cite wikipedia but for lack of a better source:
"Evidence supporting the possibility that a full bladder can stimulate an erection has existed for some time and is characterized as a 'reflex erection'. The nerves that control a man’s ability to have a reflex erection are located in the sacral nerves (S2-S4) of the spinal cord.[3] A full bladder is known to mildly stimulate nerves in the same region. This mild stimulus which during the day is normally suppressed in adult males by competing stimuli and other distractions; during sleep with the absence of such factors could instigate a reflex erection".

Now, I would imagine many men upon feeling this erection think they are hard because they are horny. I think that while this is possible, it is more likely their bladder is full

April 22, 2010 - 6:25pm
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