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49 and panic

By April 19, 2012 - 10:06am

get over it, be glad you made it to 49!!!! I am 63 and liking every year of it

By HERWriter Guide July 20, 2012 - 9:50am

Suncreen and lotion isn't ridiculous at all at age 21 - this should start as kids and remain for life!

I lost my mom at 5 - she was 43. I understand aging can be a hard concept but I really don't have time for reasons of vanity to play a part in fearing aging - this is totally normal.  Fearing it due to being scared to be alone or illness is one thing but a vanity issue is inane to me and I have met a couple of women like that. So many women die young or have moms, sisters and friends die young, it's a shame to see so many others influenced by outsiders (and the media) who poke fun at aging. It'll happen to all of us - if we're lucky!


July 20, 2012 - 9:50am
By July 18, 2012 - 2:13pm

I think everyone has different stages with which they're afraid of aging. Some people embrace it gracefully. I like you did not and still do not.
I think once I reached 21, I started fighting it everyday. I know it sounds ridiculous but I started sunscreen and lotion everyday. I hate aging. I'm not sure if it's because my mother died when I was 14 or what it is. But I am not 38 and lie about my age or just do not mention it. It's a running joke for the most part with my family and close friends.
I think it's okay to worry a little. Do things that make you feel better about aging. Everyone has their "thing"

July 18, 2012 - 2:13pm
By July 17, 2012 - 10:26pm

I'm 49. Remembering back when first diagnosed at age 45 with bleek prognosis, looking around the chemo room I was the youngest most days and my mind would drift to wishing I was 80/70/60 instead of in my mid-40s...then began to hope to make it to 50...a few more months, God willing, I'll be 50. Health is your best wealth.

July 17, 2012 - 10:26pm
By May 27, 2012 - 12:13pm

That is a great attitude keep it up. Being 40 did not bother me but this year I will be 55. Now that is a bit scary. I will be able to go to Shoppers on seniors day for discounts. The fact that I will be considered a senior is a reality check. Is it time to dress differently? How do I cut my hair to look younger? I don't feel old. Is it time to wear the one piece bathing suit? Are there any rules?

May 27, 2012 - 12:13pm
By HERWriter Guide April 28, 2012 - 4:11pm

Hi workinggirl2983

Thanks for your post!

It's all in the individual perspective, isn't it? When people complain and endlessly fret about turning 40, I remind them that if they are lucky to make it to 80, they will look back on 40 as being so young!

Most female relatives I have consider their 40s their best years. At 42, I believe them and enjoy the fitness, good health and confidence I have. There is absolutely no way to stop time so we can either wallow in our misery (and vanity) or grab every good moment we have.

Thank you for your positive advice!


April 28, 2012 - 4:11pm

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