I admit, I’m confounded about the “controversy” regarding a European doll that is about to enter the American market. To me, it’s about as controversial as buying your daughter a bike. We've talked a little about the controversy on Empower and I just don’t get it.
The very nature of having a doll is to nurture. While we may throw other toys around like balls and Frisbees, or use movement and competition with trains, cars or board games, dolls are specifically designed for feeding, dressing, putting to sleep and make-believe care-giving.
And so, our dolls fake pee in their diapers, pretend to cry via batteries and some can even move around gently. Many dolls have a tiny rounded mouth so a pretend bottle fits in it. These new babies about to enter the market are the same as any other doll except they are made for pretend breastfeeding.
Most of the outrage states that this doll doesn’t allow girls a childhood. Why must we introduce such a thing to young girls when they should remain innocent for the few years of childhood they get? We must ask ourselves, how does breastfeeding take away innocence? There is no sexual aspect to breastfeeding and unless we adults can’t separate sex from breasts, there shouldn’t be an issue.
The problem is that breastfeeding is seen by some people as some kind of adult oriented action with a sexual component. And it’s a sad state of affairs when we pass along our own hang-ups and hysteria on our children. Because it’s we adults who take away our children’s innocence in this regard – not the cute little doll and certainly not the young girls themselves. If breastfeeding is putting pressure on girls to nurse, isn't bottle feeding doing the same thing but with formula?
There are more reasons why "regular" dolls can be worse. In fact, dolls for boys often include monsters, violent hit men and killer soldiers armed with guns, knives and bombs. If any dolls might take away innocence, it’s surely those. But since we’re taking breasts, we know those are the real enemy, right? Those soft features on a woman’s body that will surely ruin a girls childhood if they are ever included as a feature on a doll.