Generational Shift in Playtime
Modern American parenting says that, in order for our children to turn into well-rounded adults, we need to expose them to as many world experiences as possible. The thinking is that the knowledge gained through these experiences will increase the chances of lifelong happiness and success. Failure to provide these opportunities for your child is often viewed as a form of neglect. (1)
Most of us long for the days — and long for our kids to experience the days — that we had when we just played outside in the front yard, built snow forts and tree houses and club houses out of old pieces of wood; when we used our imaginations and didn’t come home until supper time.
While there are some obvious safety issues now, I think many of us have lost sight of the basic premise that children still need to play — they still need to be children.
With today’s society so strongly holding on to this idea that our kids are better for having as many structured activities as possible, we’ve lost the appreciation for the value of unstructured play in terms of our children’s over-all development.
Unstructured playtime — the kind many of us grew up with — is now viewed as a waste of time.
Are Current Parenting Trends Hurting our Kids?
Research from the University of Michigan shows that, over the past 20 years, there has been a drop of 12 hours a week in free time overall for children ages 3 to 12, “with unstructured activities like walking or camping falling by 50 percent – and structured sports going up by 50 percent.” (1)
We think all this structure helps our children later on in life, and yet no one can deny the alarming rise in teen suicides, and anxiety and stress levels in college students. According to the American College Health Association, “61% of college students had feelings of hopelessness during the previous academic year, 45% felt so depressed they had trouble functioning, and 9% suffered suicidal ideation.”
"Several studies have linked feelings of anxiety and depression with that of perfectionism and an over critical self-evaluation.