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You Are a Great Mom! Beating the Mother’s Day Blues

By Darlene Oakley HERWriter
 
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forget the Mother's Day blues, you are a great mom
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Most of my articles are based on my own experience — questions I’ve always asked myself, things I’ve wondered or have been told and wonder if they’re true. I figure, we’re all going through this mom experience together and it might help another mom out there dealing with the same thing or asking the same questions I am. This article is no exception.

Am I a good mother?

A number of weeks ago I received a letter from someone who called himself my friend and then proceeded to tell me what a terrible mother I was because I wasn’t doing this or doing that and that my issues with my sons’ behavior would all evaporate if I would just do what he said.

I know there are a bunch of moms out there who also hear words like this.

Now, mind you, his words were completely contradictory to what other mothers have expressed to me. In no way would I hold myself up as the model all moms should aspire to be. But I felt it was highly unfair of this person, who’d only been in my life for a short period of time to render this judgment on my mothering skills.

When I expressed that I felt I wasn’t a good mother his response was, basically, “You’re right. You’re not.” Funny how the one negative comment refutes all the good ones I get from other mothers and grandmothers who know what they’re talking about.

I battle enough with maintaining my self-esteem as a mother. Sure, there are areas in my mothering life where I need to and can improve, but that doesn’t mean I’m a terrible mother. Doesn’t mean you are, either.

We all have our own lives and one of the ways we moms learn best is to chat with other moms.

Mommy self-esteem issues

My goal as a mother is to provide a safe, welcoming, accepting environment where my kids can de-stress at the end of their school day. I want my kids to see this as a safe place to be, a fun place to be. A home with laughter and jokes, but balanced with the necessary things that they need to learn to be successful in life.

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