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'Next!' The Do's and Don'ts Of Online Dating

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We live in an age where we can swipe our phone screens left and right to find our soul mate (or, let’s be honest, a man that will even call after the first date).

Tinder, Hinge, OKCupid, Match.com, JDate, Coffee Meets Bagel … What is this craziness about online dating, and more importantly, does it really work?

For me, it did. I’ve been seeing a great guy that I met online for two months now, and it's going strong! To be honest though, it hasn’t been easy.

Finding what I was looking for involved many failed dates and “amazing” guys who are now on the Lost Men Island, as Carrie Bradshaw calls it, and they apparently have no cell reception.

Online dating certainly has its pros and cons and do's and don'ts. So here is the long and short of it — give it a shot and maybe you will find what you’re looking for!

It’s Raining Men!

Probably the biggest advantage of online dating is the huge pool of potential partners — partners that you may not get a chance to meet “organically” in your everyday life.

Having access to people who are your type, who share similar interests, who live in the same area, and who you might even have mutual friends with, increases your chances of finding someone that you could actually date for a long time.

The downside? The curse of too much choice.

Going through candidates can get confusing, and going on too many first dates can definitely get overwhelming. You might lose your focus and get stuck in a “browsing” cycle. So try to pick an app that gives you a limited number of options per day to minimize the distraction.

Make sure you know what you are really looking for and communicate it to those who you are interested in meeting.

Safe and Easy

Online dating offers a chance to talk to a potential date before the date actually takes place. That’s why chatting online before you meet in person can help you narrow down your options — and avoid scams — without much effort and time commitment.

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EmpowHER Guest

Never made difference between real dating and dating online ( By the way I met my current girlfriend exactly due to a dating site ) These sites help out busy people like me to increase our chances to find love just because we have no time enough to meet people in real life ..

March 19, 2015 - 12:49am
EmpowHER Guest

There's still a lot of prejudice against online dating. Probably, because there's less pretence involved, and people often put quite straightforwardly what they want from relationships. It may be less romantic, but may work better in the long run.

I've had my share of online dating - there was both awful and good experience. The best thing about online dating that it gives opportunity to go beyond the fixed social circle and find a person with similar interests. Recently I've agreed to go on a date with a guy I met on online, and didn't regret a bit. So, online dating is definitely something worth trying.

March 12, 2015 - 1:22am
EmpowHER Guest

this is all so true! there's lot of stigma against online dating but what people don't understand is that it's a great resource to meet people you wouldn't meet otherwise! the site i use is Mesh and it does an amazing job (however dating sites do it.. "allgorithms" or whatever) to find matches for you that actually would "MESH" with your personality! (ha, see what i did there...)

March 2, 2015 - 10:17am
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