Ever since the hit HBO television series 'BIg Love' hit the bedrooms and living rooms of Americans, there has been a judgmental, curious and downright fascinated buzz about polygamy. When a man chooses more than one woman not only to marry but to raise children with and share a life with, things get complex and, not only is it an alternative lifestyle, it can seem to have the feel of an alternative dimension.
If any of you have not had the opportunity to watch this show I'll keep it shrouded in mystery for you, but I will uncover the fact that, yes, the wives have rotating nights with their husband and, yes, there is in-fighting, jealousy and bickering and, yes, the characters do all seem quite as miserable, confused, betrayed and stressed out as any couple does in a more traditional dysfunctional relationship.
I myself have never met anyone personally in this type of plural marriage situation, so all I have going for me is a superficial sense of it based on a television series. However, from my experience with human relations, it appears to me that we are under utilizing our fantasy muscle in the bedroom. If indeed you are in a monogamous relationship and would like to keep it that way, bringing fantasies of others into your sex life while remaining true to your life partner can really work to diffuse some temptation not only to cheat, but to continually look for a back door exit to your relationship. No matter how you slice it, people are quite complicated. Adding another person to your already complicated relationship will undoubtedly make things even more confusing than they may be already. Some critics have pointed to deep unhappiness among wives in polygamous marriages and that men do it as an excuse to be adulterous. Please see the following link for more on this.
While I have never been in a plural marriage, I have been exposed to the complexities of "cheating" in every way imaginable, and, as may be expected, it is not worth the trouble.
In the heat of the moment, of course, caution may get flung to the far reaches of the stratosphere.