When you’re in love, in a committed relationship or not, you may sometimes not be the best partner. It’s human to not be perfect all the time, and it’s to be expected. But if you hurt someone, especially someone close to you such as a partner, you need to sincerely apologize.
As explained in a Psychology Today online article, “The most famous line from the wildly popular 1970 book Love Story by Erich Segal is, ‘Love means never having to say you're sorry.’ As a New York Times #1 bestseller, the book became the top selling work of fiction for 1970 and was translated into more than 20 languages worldwide. The motion picture of the same name was the number one box office attraction of 1971.”
Saying your sorry means you recognize that you didn’t consider your partner's feelings when you did what you did, and you should have. You are validating their feelings, which can be a powerful thing if you plan to remain close with that person. Apologizing opens the door for forgiveness and reconciliation. It can make it easier to put the fault, the temporary slip-up, in the past and move on in a positive direction regardless if you remain together or not. So if you said or did something wrong, say so. It's also good for your health.
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