"The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
“Life without passion would be a dull wasteland of neutrality, cut off and isolated from the richness of life itself.”
The first quote is from Mitch Albom, a best-selling author, and the second is from Daniel Goleman, a psychologist and author. So many people have opinions on passion and its part in our lives, and that’s because it really does have a major impact on most of our existences.
Passion can motivate people to keep on going on in their lives because it gives a purpose for living and something to focus on throughout life.
Passion can be found in our love lives, our careers and our personal lives. For example, a woman might be passionate about her partner in a relationship, her career in marine biology and her personal hobby of reading. If she’s a parent, she might also be passionate about raising her child, and if she’s religious, her passion might be serving God. Her life could include all of these or only one of these.
In my own life, I can identify my passions of writing, psychology, love and relationships, and animals. I have other interests, but those areas are what I feel strongly about and give me the most happiness when I accomplish goals in those areas.
Arthur Aron, a psychologist at Stony Brook University, said passion is a “focused, intense desire to achieve some outcome, some goal, or to be engaged in something.”
His work focuses on passion in relationships.
“In an ongoing relationship, the way they can create more passion is to do things together with their partner that are challenging, novel, exciting,” Aron said.
In one experiment, long-term couples spent an hour and a half each week doing something ‘new and challenging versus doing something enjoyable but that is sort of mundane, that they do regularly,” he said.
“It was a big difference over ten weeks in the passion they felt for their partner,” Aron said.