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Mine is almost non existant! :o(
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I thank you for posting that it took a year. I am very concerned after 3 months (almost to the day) that her drive has not returned. She cannot articulate what the problem is either... other than going through a lot of relational issues with her mom. We are in counseling, but you have just given me huge hope that things will eventually come out okay in regards to our intimate life. I thank you for that!
May 11, 2015 - 8:09amThis Comment
Please continue being supportive and with time you will see a change! My husband is shocked and doesn't know what to think of the "new" me. It has been so tough for him and it breaks my heart that we went through so many years with a minimal sexlife.
May 11, 2015 - 8:47amI truly feel like a new person!
Hang in there! Believe me, it's worth the wait!
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Can you tell me if you had intimacy avoidance issues? I feel like closeness, kissing, hugging is avoided. Thanks again for your help!
May 11, 2015 - 8:41pmThis Comment
I didn't. I wanted to kiss him, and cuddle. But the thought of sex was just repulsive. I did learn, that if he takes his time finding your "turn on" spots, you actually want to sex. It helped me at least. Still can't wait to get it taken out next week!
May 11, 2015 - 8:50pmThis Comment
I got mine in 14 months ago, right after I gave birth. I haven't had a sex drive since, and it's destroying my marriage. I'm getting it removed in a week, and I can not wait. My husband and I were always happy, and had sex just about every night. Now we fight almost daily, and have sex once a month, if that, after he annoys me so badly due to begging for sex. I am counting down the days, and I'm sure he is too.
May 11, 2015 - 7:36amThis Comment
This is the second time I post a comment here (in this article). We (Me and my wife) have been suffering this problem for almost 5 years. Our sexual life is almost nonexistent and this have caused us a lot of problems. I'm not pretty sure, but I think she is not using Mirena, eventhough she is using a IUS (Intra Uterine System) that's based on Levonorgestrel (the same Active Ingredient of Mirena). So as far as I can tell, this is the main reason our marriage is almost reaching a dead end.
It seems she doesn't matter to have a sexual intercourse with me, she avoid contact, postpone sex with a bunch of silly excuses, and when I talk with her about it she only says, don't worry I wi'll change this, its my fault, but everthing just keeps happening. I don't know that to do (and get it removed is not an option for us, as none of us want more kids). I think my marriage is getting closer to an inevitable divorce conclution. I still love her, but I just can't take it anymore.
By the way, this is my second marriage, I ended the first one because of a lack of sex, sometimes a think it was a precipitated decision as she (my first wife) was using a IUS too. We had the same talking to and in many times I told her that she didn't love anymore. As it turns out, here I am, getting through the same $h%^@t again. Some times I think I should never finish my first marriage just to be suffering the same problems again in my second marriage. I feel lost, depressed and without any resource left.
What else can I do?
May 6, 2015 - 7:41amThis Comment
Hi! I feel so sorry for you. But more so for your wife. I too am going through this - low sex drive - and it's relieving to see that it's NOT me, but the IUD that is causing it. As a wife I can tell you that it is heartbreaking for us not to want our man. We are helpless within ourselves. We feel like a total failure as a wife. But we did step up and get this IUD in so there would be no more kids (we have 4). My husband went for a consultation to get snipped but then couldn't go through with it and that's why I had to get this IUD again. And it sounds like you realize what is causing your wife's low sex drive. Good! :) So instead of putting you both through the heartache of a divorce, why don't you just have an open conversation about it with her (I know I am going to with my husband) and talk this through? Maybe she can get her IUD removed and YOU can step up an did something about the no-more-kids plan. I believe that if you love her, you won't be throwing her by the wayside (that's how it feel for her if you divorce her) but rather do an easy fix and get that thing out of her!
May 16, 2015 - 6:16amThis Comment
Literarily no sex for 9 years after my wife got Mirena. If you are a man, that is a ground for divorce without remorse. She did not know the cause and whenever we are on the verge, she'll force herself to have sex which is not fun. Always moody, yelling at kids, tired. Zero sex drive, headache. She became impossible to talk to, even her mum was applauding me for putting up. It was that bad.
What I could not understand is why she was contented with all these. I had to figure out what was wrong, and it took 9 years to convince her. I hope the removal will help.
May 5, 2015 - 8:45amShe's going to get it removed today and probably replace with Paragard.
The forum has been more help than the Doctors
How many million couples could be suffering in silence? This Mirena must be responsible for thousands of divorces globally.
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I had mirena for almost 5 years,then removed to try to conceive. 6 weeks after the birth of my daughter I had it again for almost 2 years. It wasn't until my mirena fell out a few weeks ago that I realized my sex drive was crazy. All of a sudden I felt the need and wanted it all the time. It's crazy that all those years I just thought I wasn't in the mood and felt horrible about it. My husband and I would still be intimate sometimes but it just wasn't the same with me not in the mood. Mirena falling out has been the best thing to have happened to me and I will never get it again.
May 5, 2015 - 9:19pmThis Comment
I relate and hold out hope that it is Mirena afterall. We had it removed 3 months ago. She actually initiated sex a couple of weeks ago though that was the only time she was in to it. That does give me a glimmer of hope but it really has only been that once that it was good.
May 5, 2015 - 2:11pmAs for forcing herself... I think that is what my wife did and now it has developed in to an aversion where she tenses up and has anxiety about sex. It is a really bad position to be in and I have gone through the gammit of emotions. We are in counseling now. I hold out hope and have faith that we will have a better physical intimate marriage to come. It leaves me feeling very insecure as a man, that is for sure. I assure you though, our wives do not like feeling like this and they want to be available to us. Mirena is from Satan!
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