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Anyone using the Mirena IUD have a low sex drive?

By April 24, 2009 - 1:10pm
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Low Libido

Mine is almost non existant! :o(

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Sorry, forgot to log in before posting my update. The previous post by annonymous was me.

May 18, 2012 - 9:38pm
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She informed me she is in love with a "friend" of mine, whom I recently found out has been badmouthing me behind my back. I think she has lost her mind. I know he can't and won't take care of her. For me, a broken family may be the end result of being poor, and under-informed about the hazzards of Mirena. The loss of intimacy in our marriage during the time she was on it, combined with everything that came with the "crash" left her primed to jump ship when her libido finally started to return. It may have been too much negative associated with being intimate with me. Atleast I have my daughter and know my little one will be fine. She will miss her mommy, but she will know Daddy loves her and she will be ok, I hope.


I pray for all the families like mine, that have been destroyed by this monster. And I pray for all the families that are currently being destroyed, as well as all of the future families that will face this pain before the word gets out.

Good luck to you all.

May 18, 2012 - 9:35pm

Just an update. Things are not going well. Will post again when I have more time and information.


May 16, 2012 - 12:37pm
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Hello all. I am a 31 year old man who loves his wife dearly. we are going on our fourth year of marriage. About a week ago however she suddenly tells me that she loves me, but she is not in love with me, and hasn't been for about two years.

Now for the background and why I am posting here for advice. We concieved on our wedding night and nine months later had a beautiful little girl. A month or two after that my wife got the Mirena Monster inserted. I had already done alot of research during and after the pregnancy, and knew that my wife's libido being hit and miss was normal during pregnancy, and that it could continue to be that way for several months after childbirth. Since our daughter was my wifes 3rd child, we didn't want anymore, but also couldn't afford the surgical options. So we got the Mirena which was covered by the limited insurance we had. Her libido went from hit and miss to GONE. And she had all the other symptoms as well. We tried a variety of ways to keep our sexlife alive, but ultimately it came down to her forcing herself to do it once every 6-8 weeks, usually when she was trying to "butter me up" to get something she wanted. Our situation got so bad that we didn't share a bed, and we seldom spent any time together, even when I lost my job and was home alot on unemployment. There was no intamacy at all, only bare minimum levels of affection. And that frequently seemed to me to be more for my benefit than anything else.

Around July or August of last year her body spontaniously expelled the Mirena on it's own, and she did start to feel better, ( a very little bit better) after about a week without it. However every month at the onset of her cycle she goes through the crash symptoms again. (And yes, she was about to start her cycle when she told me she was no longer in love with me) Now I admit I did letmyself go a bit during all of this to do her lack of interest killing off alot of my self esteme. But here lately I am working again, making ok money, enough that she doesn't have to work and we still get by. Since the job is physical, I am getting back into decent physical shape again as well. My spouse has told me that she doesn't want to leave, she still cares for, and loves me, just that she isn't in love with me. She even went so far as to say that she WANTED me to find a surrogate sexual partner to satisfy my physical needs as she still has no real interest in being intimate in any way. I of course refused such an offer, but it leaves us in a quandry. I finally got her to talk to me about the situation and she admitted that she is no longer physically attracted to me, even with me being back in shape. She also admitted that her tastes had changed i other areas as well, but she remained vague about the extent of those changes. Considering that she had still been sort of affectionate just 3 days before she told me that she wasn't in love with me I had considered the possibility that she had had or was having an affair, but there are no other signs of such a problem. We are both at our wits end.

Currently we are essentially tredding water on our relationship. It was a mutual decision to give things some more time and see what happens. I am trying to do romantic things, like setting up "date nights" and such, but she has confessed that she isn't sure if/when she will be willing to put some real effort into things herself. I know that it won't work if she isn't able/willing to work with me and it is saddening and disheartening. I personally believe, and she somewhat agrees that alot of her current feelings on our relationship were brought about by her trying to force herself to take care of my physical needs during the Mirena nightmare. We both had above normal sexual appetites before the pregnancy, then hers dropped during the pregnancy to about average or a little under. I was able to handle that and had no problems during the pregnancy. After the pregnancy I was looking forward to a gradual return of our love life, but that never happened because she had the Mirena IUD placed about 2 months after she delivered our daughter. I made myself be understanding and didn't complain unless I became to stressed and needed it. Which considering my appetite runs in the range of 1-3 times a day, I only usually made it six weeks, even with masturbation, before I found myself asking her for it, or trying to do anything I could think of to entice her into intercourse.

I am hoping for the following with this post:
1.) For it to serve as a warning to other couples. I hope and pray to save my relationship, but I understand that the damage is done, and may be irrepairable. I hope others learn from this tale of woe and are able to take action before it ruins theirrelationships.

2.) To get any usefull advice that might be offered. Like ideals to help rekindle the fire, herbs, or suppliments that might make her Mirena sysmptoms more tollorable.

3.) To see if anyone else had experienced anything like what my wife and I have gone through.

Thank you all,



April 27, 2012 - 3:01pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I'm sorry to hear of ya'll problems. I wrote the post just above yours. I'm curious-how long has her Mirena been out? Mine's been out about 3 months and I feel like my sex drive is just now beginning to come back. There's no doubt in my mind my lack of desire was from that evil thing. It makes you feel cold and unlovable. Maybe she just needs to give it more time? I would think the most important thing here is finding out if she truly WANTS to salvage your marriage. Since you guys have kids together hopefully she does. If she's made up her mind that she's ready to give up then your efforts won't get very far, but if she wants to make it work then she needs to ask herself if her lack of desire is truly about you or is it gone altogether? I would suggest yall seeing a marriage counselor but I know that's not cheap. I think some insurances may cover it. I CAN say this--during the 2.5 years I had that Mirena I began thinking the same things, that I just wasn't attracted to him anymore. It didn't make sense bc I love him and he's a super hot guy. I tried telling doctors and they'd say the same thing-that I was depressed. That could be it too for your wife-maybe she's depressed--over time losing your sex drive makes you feel like you're just a body walking around, and not a woman. I think you mentioned that she's a stay-at-home mom. I am one also, and until 3 years ago when I had my son I always worked, and I feel like I was happier when I worked-just getting out and seeing people. If she's not exercising, for me that makes a HUGE difference. Of course, telling her to start exercising if she's not already could be BAD...me &my guy bought some bikes &we take our 2yr old when we can get away. Or maybe yall could plan some weekend getaways. I don't know yall but I feel like I've been there. I guess that's the most important thing is finding out if she truly wants to make this work before moving forward, otherwise you're just beating a dead horse. I wish yall Good Luck!

April 28, 2012 - 9:14am
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Question: has anyone had success with supplements? I read that zinc would help with the acne that often comes with mirena and it did. I've had mirena almost 3 months but NO orgasm (can't even do it myself) and hair loss. I read that might be related to magnesium deficiency. I wondered if magnesium supplements would help. Perhaps something that makes be deficient in so many vitamins is not a good fit, though. It would help to hear if anyone was able to "push past" these symptoms or if they only continued/worsened.

March 18, 2012 - 6:32pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

From my experiences 2& a half years w/Mirena I can only recommend to anyone, friend or stranger, to have it removed! The adverse side effects hit me gradually over time so it was hard to pinpoint that it was mirena. But like you I couldn't reach orgasm when I had Mirena and never had a prob in that area before. Now it's been out a month or so and I feel flirty again & interested in sex again. That thing did something bad to me, Idk. I also have a recurring infection that I cannot get rid of, no matter what pills they give me it keeps coming back. It started shortly after Mirena was put in. I've read having this infection for long periods of time can damage the cervix and/or uterus. I'm very scared. Mirena has caused some bad problems for me--if I were you I'd RUN to your obgyn &have it removed &consider the Paragard IUD. It doesn't secrete hormones. I had it 13 years & highly recommend it. I also read that many women after Mirena began menopause in their 20s and 30s!! My obgyn thought I was having menopause at first (I'm 35!) scared me to death, but after testing she confirmed I'm not. and HEY LADIES! We are SUPPOSED to be having periods! It's God's way or Mother Nature's way. I've learned my lesson about messing w/ Mother Nature! Idk why that thing is still on the market--but that's my experience.

March 19, 2012 - 9:07am
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These are interesting comments. My girlfriend and I have been experiencing this issue. Her sex drive has hit bottom since getting mirena. I love her no matter what so it is not causing of relationship problems but she knows that I love being close to her and that I desire her more now that when we first met. We both want to find a solution because our sex life has been great. I think that after reading so many similar experiences it might be a good idea to have it removed.

February 10, 2012 - 12:05pm
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I am so so glad to have found this, feel like I've been going crazy. Got the mirena last September and like many just dont want sex, pull away from any intimacy. I've bled non stop, constant backside and horrible depression. Out it goes!!

January 12, 2012 - 3:13pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I'm also so glad to have found these blogs bc all this time I was thinking something was wrong w/me. I'm 35, way too young to be losing interest in sex. I got Mirena 2.5 years ago after my 2nd boy was born. For the longest I blamed my lack of desire on having a baby but it's been almost 3 yrs now! I've lost the baby weight, I feel sexy again and I'm way attracted to my man but almost couldn't stand for him to touch me ...it hasn't made any sense until I found these blogs. I'm getting this thing out of me, it is ruining our relationship. Mirena is FANTASTIC BIRTH CONTROL bc there's NO DESIRE FOR SEX!! Lol but no, not funny...I had the Copper IUD aka ParaGard for over 10 years after my 1st child and never experienced any lack of desire.I'm getting it back asap. To make matters worse, I never got the benefit of no periods on Mirena-I've had periods the whole time. After reading all these posts I'm convinced Mirena ruins relationships. I won't recommend it to anyone. Calling 2morrow to have it removed! /:

February 9, 2012 - 8:42pm
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