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By Anonymous September 20, 2016 - 9:44am
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This is driving me insane.
My bf and I fooled around on the 1st. He told me to pull down my pants ensuring me nothing will happen. Me being a total idiot listened to him. Now my period is late and I cannot get the thought of pregnancy out of my head.

all he did was finger me (no penetration of his penis whatsoever). I have no idea if his hands were clean from Precm though :(
I've been experiencing nausea and that's about it and my vagina is quite dry. I do feel cramps and I feel hot flushes but that could be down to the ginger tea to ease my nausea.

I went to the walk in clinic, she did a pregnancy test and it was negative. It's been 19 days since the incident so I don't know if it would be accurate at this stage. I also told her about the incident and she said there was no chance because there was no penetration of his penis. But on different sites I have read the contrary.

I am not on talking terms with my bf at the moment

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Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to EmpowHER. I am glad you reached out to our community with your concern. The healthcare provider at the clinic was correct. Without penetration and ejaculation, there was no risk for becoming pregnant.


September 20, 2016 - 9:48am
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

I don't understand though

Why do some sites say that it's possible to get pregnant via Precum?
Is that only if he penetrated inside of me :/

I'm trying my best to understand the whole concept

September 20, 2016 - 12:13pm
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anonymous,

Here is what GoAskAlice/ Columbian University has to say,

"It is possible to become pregnant from a man's pre-ejaculate fluid under certain instances , though the chances are quite low. Pre-ejaculate fluid itself does not contain sperm, however sperm left behind from a previous ejaculation might be an eager stow-away on the pre-ejaculate cargo ship."

"After ejaculation, whether by masturbation or sex with a partner, sperm may be left over in the urethra, the tube that semen travels through. Urinating between ejaculations flushes the urethra of these leftover sperm and clears the way for pre-ejaculate.

If sperm remain in the urethra from a previous ejaculation, they may be released with pre-ejaculate.

During unprotected vaginal sex, this could allow sperm to enter the vagina and possibly fertilize an egg, even if the man were to pull out before ejaculating."

Hope this clears up the confusion.

September 21, 2016 - 9:21am
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Kindof. But that is only talking about withdrawal

Im concerned because I've not even had sex (at all). I'm just afraid of Precum on his hands

September 21, 2016 - 9:33am
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hi Anonymous,

No, it is talking about the presence of sperm in pre ejaculate fluid. So, it applies to pre ejaculate fluid on his fingers as well as if he had his penis inside of you.


September 21, 2016 - 9:52am
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

You are telling me different things

First you tell me that the healthcare professional was correct (that without ejaculation and penetration there is no risk) and mos your saying there is a slight risk.

September 21, 2016 - 10:06am
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anonymous,

This will be my final reply. I never said there was a slight risk. I simply provided you with a credible explanation of a situation when pre ejaculate fluid might contain sperm. I have tried my best to answer your questions.


September 22, 2016 - 8:36am
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