Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

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HI everyone
Im glad to hear I am not the only girl.Me and my bf are coming up to the our 3 year annerv and moved in beginning of this year.Now guys please explain this to me...in our first two years we where at it none stop,when we moved in it stopped.I literally tried everything,Im not boring in bed cos I listen to what he want and ask him and did all hes fantasies.I exercise look after myself and get men hitting o on me all the time except my own boyfriend(without sounding fill of it).I asked him and he simply said that sex isnt important to him anymore and that hes getting older.hes 29 im 21 in my books that pretty young.To make it worse he wants to marry me and have children with me in the next two years and I simply cant marry a man that has no passion for me. yet he has hes moments where he will hug me but barely any sex.Please help Im a passionate person,and I like to show this to him. He cheated in the beginning but hasn't cheated ever since,I know this for a fact and doesn't really work hard so those theories dont even count for me. (sorry for long story) :)

hi... yeah i can totally relate to all this... but in my case i dont know what to do.. ive been with him for 4 in a half years now and moved in together 3 year ago now we have a 2 year old boy that we both love... but its been like about 3 months that we havent had sex that often maybe 2 a week or sometimes none in a week.. and it goes for another week.. we have been having trust issues because he works an hour away and idk what is up to after work.. i know the times he should be off but sometimes he tells me that is out drinking with his friends but sometimes he cant even answer my calls or have his phone turn off.. i have found numbers of whore in our cell phone history only but idk what they say as i only know they text before he gets home.. i have asked him so many times if he cheated and he tells me no and that those sluts are crazy and out of there mind.. but when his come home late he has come with like cat hair or sweater are missing.. and he says he leaves them at work.. but what about the belts how is it that belts go missing and then i see an email of the same whore saying some sexi guy left his belt like wtf i confronted him and he said that that chick is crazy.. weve broken up and had problems for over 2 months now and its sooooo hard on my i cry and cry sometimes and he dont hold me and trys to prove me wrong he tell me he hasnt cheated on me and he says he will promise me infront of church if it makes me feel better... and he says to stop braking my head over stupid girls.. and that he loves me but we have broken up like 3 times and gone back i love him so much but i have trouble trusting him when on time when he came home late and drunk when he was sleeping i asked him what was my named and he called me that whores name i cryied and punched him in the chest.. he said sorry babe im sorry i cant believe i just called you that bitches name.. and well eventhough he has told me so many times that he hasnt and even joked about it like its funny and laught and then he says if it makes you shut up yes yes i fucked them whore and names others ... and he say dont be stupid i havent but that what u want to her.. and as much i say no u bring shit out....so idk what to think plz help i love him and would love to merry him someday...

hi... yeah i can totally relate to all this... but in my case i dont know what to do.. ive been with him for 4 in a half years now and moved in together 3 year ago now we have a 2 year old boy that we both love... but its been like about 3 months that we havent had sex that often maybe 2 a week or sometimes none in a week.. and it goes for another week.. we have been having trust issues because he works an hour away and idk what is up to after work.. i know the times he should be off but sometimes he tells me that is out drinking with his friends but sometimes he cant even answer my calls or have his phone turn off.. i have found numbers of whore in our cell phone history only but idk what they say as i only know they text before he gets home.. i have asked him so many times if he cheated and he tells me no and that those sluts are crazy and out of there mind.. but when his come home late he has come with like cat hair or sweater are missing.. and he says he leaves them at work.. but what about the belts how is it that belts go missing and then i see an email of the same whore saying some sexi guy left his belt like wtf i confronted him and he said that that chick is crazy.. weve broken up and had problems for over 2 months now and its sooooo hard on my i cry and cry sometimes and he dont hold me and trys to prove me wrong he tell me he hasnt cheated on me and he says he will promise me infront of church if it makes me feel better... and he says to stop braking my head over stupid girls.. and that he loves me but we have broken up like 3 times and gone back i love him so much but i have trouble trusting him when on time when he came home late and drunk when he was sleeping i asked him what was my named and he called me that whores name i cryied and punched him in the chest.. he said sorry babe im sorry i cant believe i just called you that bitches name.. and well eventhough he has told me so many times that he hasnt and even joked about it like its funny and laught and then he says if it makes you shut up yes yes i fucked them whore and names others ... and he say dont be stupid i havent but that what u want to her.. and as much i say no u bring shit out....so idk what to think plz help i love him and would love to merry him someday...

My boyfriend and I gave been together for almost three years. He is Caucasian and I am Asian. Our sex life has been pretty steady, about five times a week, then suddenly for the past couple of months he hasn't had any urges to be sexual at all. This problem has been affecting our relationship negatively. At first I thought that maybe he doesn't see me as attractive anymore, but then he always tells me how beautiful I am and he always tells me how much it turns him on to see me work out but still no action. I am so confused. I have suggested that maybe we take a break, but he refuses to and explained that the muscle supplements he has been taking is the cause. I have also concluded that his busy schedule--school, work, and the army--has much effect on his urges. I don't suspect him cheating at all. Anyways, if your boyfriend has a busy schedule or if he is taking any type of supplements that could be a possible reason for his low "cravings".

I am male and I don't especially like sex. I place it in the top 10 things in a relationship but not in the top 5.

When I was younger, I had sexual relations almost out of peer pressure because that is what I thought I "should" do. As it turned out, me and my wife both agreed later that we'd rather watch a video and hold hands than have a romp. To the best of my knowledge, she was satisfied with the relationship (she passed away 05/09) and I know I was.

If you haven't done it, talk to your guy about how important (or not) it is to him. I think a lot of women assume that guys always have their libido set on high. That simply isn't the case. He could have closet sex-apathy. It doesn't mean you're unattractive or you're not "doing it right" but what it does mean is that there is a psychological or physical barrier that he has toward having sex. Mine is physical; I don't like the act that much.

im a guy and i used to do my gf all the time and now like once a month. im 34 so im not old and i play w myself all the time. i am not cheating though i think about it all the time. im just sexually bored and i think thats the reason for most men. somewhere along the way istoped thinking of her as a lover and as a best friend. now i dont know what to do. everythin else is right.

For those woman out there that might be reading this because they have a hunch their boyfriends / husbands might be gay, here is a list of signs that he probably is:

1. The sex seems forced and lacking in sensuality
2. The sex is infrequent and always was
3. You are rejected a lot when you want to be intimate
4. He doesn’t kiss you much and when he does, well – it just sucks
5. He looks at men
6. He had openly admitted to having sexual experiences with men
7. You are the first woman he has committed to
8. He buys you a dildo to use by yourself
9. He lashes out when you try to be intimate with him
10. He thinks your attempts at being sexy for him are humorous
11. He doesn’t really like getting blow jobs from you
12. Sex seems like it’s a opportunity for him to workout
13. He doesn’t seem to care about hurting or rejecting you physically
14. Sex seems like a chore to him
15. And lastly and most importantly, you are simply questioning his sexuality

This is a list taken out of my recent blog posting, "My Ex-boyfriend was on the 'Down Low'". Feel free to check it out here: https://barkandwhistle.wordpress.com/2010/12/17/my-ex-boyfriend-was-on-the-down-low/
For all those women out there that are being rejected sexually, my heart goes out to you and I hope you find it within yourself to move on if you have already put in too much energy trying to solve HIS problems.

Listen, I can't speak for all the other guys, I can't only speak for myself. I am that guy that has lost complete sexual interest in my girlfriend of five year. I love her a lot. But there are several reasons why my sex drive went down for her. 1) She stopped caring about her weight. She has put on at least 45+ pounds since I've met her. I have never once told her she was fat. (No, she never had kids, so its not n excuse) Why does this matter? Because before putting on all this weight, she was active during sex, now she can barely get on top of me. 2) She used to be on the pill until she stopped taking them because her prescription ran out, (she wants to go natural) even though she know I hate using a condom. During our first few years of the relationship, we have never used a condom. I can't go back to rubber after all those years. BS. I love her, I really do. I'm not going to cheat on her, but men are visual creatures, so a women is going to get out of me what she puts into herself. If my girlfriend want to let herself go, then naturally she's going to lose some of her sex appeal.