Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

Hello bassically me and my boyfriend have been togehter for 5 months now, and we was sleeping together before we started the relationship, and now the sex has drasticually gone down hill! we was having alot of sex, and now its like i have to beg for it, he wont even have foreplay or anything with me, he still touches me all the time but just wont get intimate..he got quite depressed, before and i think he is coming out of it now, he keeps saying that he doesnt know why he doesnt want to have sex with me, he is still attracted to me? but the other night i caught him watching porn he said that he was bored and didnt want to wake me up. and he doesnt know why he did it. he couldnt cheat on me because he is always home, im with him everyday though, and alot of my friends have said that maybe that might be the problem that you see him to much. he just says all the time that he is not in the mood, and that he doesnt know why he doesnt want to have sex with me?! HELP!

I am also going thru the same thing. When we started dating 6 months ago it used to be sex, sex, sex daily, then it changed to 2-3 times a week, now its 1nce or nothing at all. Dont know what to think, cant say he's cheating or maybe its the stress of being unemployed? He's all of a sudden very moody & we fight all the time. At times i wonder why i am still with him, He never used to have a problem with me touching him anytime anywhere but these days he does not like it.

your not the only one going thru this... I feel your fraustation. My thing is that i dont want to cheat, because it was done to me and i wouldn't do that to hurt someone i love just for my own personal desires. i can't seem to find help. i have no one to talk to, and even if i did it would be emarrasing to even talk about. is there an online group meeting for this type of situation??? if so please feel free to let me know. thanks
Rosie from Tampa, fl

I wish I had an answer for this. I dont. My BF and I have been together for over 5 years and about two years ago he changed in his attitude towards sex. He refuses to have sex but he is into porn. We have had sex 3 times in the last two years. I cant stand it and wish I knew what the problem was. He says its not me .. its him and he gets defensive when I want to talk about it and try to fix whatever the problem is. He hates doctors and wont talk about going to see if that is the problem or not. It turns into a big fight every time and I cry for several days about it because of hurt feelings and low self esteem from the rejection. I didnt think he was cheating but so much time has passed now since this situation started that I think he might be. I know he still has active pages on dating sites. I am to the point I am ready to walk away. Any suggestions?

Oh gosh, although I feel for all of you going through all of this, its a huge relief to hear that I'm in no way alone on this.

I've been with my partner now for three and a half years, and were friends before for about five - y'know that saying "if your man is down and out, you have to get up and on"? Well, it feels like I've been having to do this for over a year now. In the past 18 months, it has always been me to initiate any intimacy under the covers, to which he used to respond without much enthusiasm and we could only ever have sex on his terms (which is in the morning when both of have a day off, which is pretty rare), which soon turned to telling me off about having a 'high libido' (which to tell you the truth, wanting to sleep with your partner twice a week isn't all that extortionate)... and now he just rolls over and doesn't want to know. He's even stopped any contact now before we go to sleep like hugs etc. - I may as well not even be there. And the knowledge that he doesn't want to even tough me makes me want to distance myself.

When I realised that we hadn't had sex in nearly 2 months, I brought it up with him. He says that sex makes him feel 'stressed'... I asked him kindly what it is that he might be nervous about, and his response, as with all of his answers to any of my questions were "I don't know". (All the plumbing definitely works down there, so its not that he can't perform, as it were). Now, I do most things for him when I'm there (about 60-70% of the week) I end up having to do everything for him - cook his meals, tidy up after him, be his taxi, the list is endless, because he just won't do it for himself, and now he tells me that it's up to ME to make sure that he "eats right" to try and stop this whole bedroom problem. So he'll change and sort the problem, but only if I do it for him. Anything that happens is always down to ME to sort out for him, and its driving me f*£%!king nuts. He's becoming more and more passive, I just don't know what to do - he gets angry at things where he never did before, he's started talking down to me like I'm some idiot, and it just doesn't feel like his heart is in it in any way... I get so frustrated and upset, I just don't know what to do. He doesn't support me in the way that I support him, in fact I'd go as far as to say that he doesn't support me at all - zero. So far there's been nothing I can do to help, I don't understand why this is happening. He would never go to a doctor or anything, but I'm tempted to make him an appointment and take him in there myself, in case this is the first sign of a larger problem. For a 23 year old guy (I'm 25) it strikes me as being quite unusual. It just seems that the more I do for him, the less he want to know, and its killing me - I hate to see him changing like this.

I don't *think* he's cheating, I've no idea if or how much porn he watches or anything (I mean, I know that he has, but he's very secretive about it). I'm so glad I've found somewhere to write this! I just don't know what to do.
C