Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

p.s ABOVE POST WAS BY ME...BEETLEBUM CXXXX

Hi again...recent anons, did you read my post? If not please have a quick read.

What I have observed from girlfriends, myself and strangely enough my mothers relationships, is that it is 99.9% our fault, our man becomes dispondent, lazy and spoilt. Woman are naturally caring and empathic and at the begginning of relationships shower our new man with all the things we would like in return; affection, time, understanding, generousity and physical contact. We give of ourselves far too much and thus we/the woman set the precident in our relationships and the assumed rules and the rule we generally communicate to our man is: "I will do anything for you, look after you, hug you, and give you sex on a plate, when ever it suits you and even if it puts me out...I don't mind" In a nutshell, most woman try to please their man too much, that this becomes normal behaviour in the mans eyes and therefore doesn't require any extra effort by him to obtain it...the woman gives and doesn't compain.....AHA UNTILL a few months, maybe a few years down the line and then the man thinks
" where the hell did this come from" and then accuses the woman of nagging, winging etc etc etc.

Look girls, why would a man, or anyone for that fact make special effort to obtain something, if its easy to get and given for free! diamonds wouldn't be worth anything if you could just pick them off the floor, like fag butts. Well thats how it gets in relationships!!! When a woman starts begging, winging, complaining and yet gives and gives and gives...of themselves both mentally and physically...there is a recipe for a passion killer...you have become a nagging surrogate mummy!!! How unattractive!!! I am no woman hater...I am one...but I see this again and again! and woman need to look at this from their mans point of view and realise that nothing is more off putting in the bedroom department, than a woman who has become a mans "mummy" and is too familiar. Re-read my last post, Cxxx

Yeah wtf dude???? Like he can hardly look me in the eyes lately... guys how do you get a dog to confess??? I have the gut feeling. I mean seriously... I just think a guy who "hasn't been eating right" or "hasn't been working out lately" or "is overworked" or whatever....... that's a total load of crap. I mean I get it here and there, it's human. But for two freakin' months? Hellooooo.........

Well I am a female and I am going through the same thing. We use to do it everyday 2-3 times a day when we first got together and I figured it would burn out a little and it did, but we were both cool just going to sleep in each others arms without having sex every night, but then it got to be like 2-3 times a week and just one orgasm instead of 2 to 3 like usual. Now I will be lucky to get it once in a weeks time and it only last maybe 10 minutes then we are done! We are both really kinky in the bedroom and he knows there isn't anything that I won't do to please him sexually, so what the hell is going on. I have mentioned it and of course he got upset saying things like, "I'm sorry I don't please you, and don't do anything right" so I am like dang I didn't even say nothing like that I just wanted to know if there was something bothering you or something!! I will not cheat on him to satisfy a sexual need, but seriously wtf I am so aggravated with this crap. The wierdest part about this whole situation is that the sex is the only thing that has changed. He still shows me all the same affection, ya know the hugging, kissing and all the other random acts of affection. Just 0 sex!! I have tried to be understanding for so long now, but I am a very sexual person and he is too and I don't know what's going on all I know is I wanna freakin DO IT!!!

Yeah, I'm a good looking girl and in perfect shape... and my boyfriend of 2 years won't sleep with me? About a year ago I found out about a one night stand. Ever since then he looks me in my eyes and tells me over and over it would never happen again. He bawled his way back into my life. He lives with me, and he has been home every single night. He comes directly home from work... leaves early in the morning and comes home about 7:30 pm every single day. I know his email passwords... (he gave them to me...) and still I have this gut feeling he is getting it somewhere else.

BOYS! Help me out here....

Hi All,

very interresting subject and have had a good read. As a 30yrold ex model, with own house, car, income etc I always thourght I wouldn't have a problem keeping a man interrested. Well I was wrong!!! and know exactly how it feels, to wonder why they suddenly find the TV far more interresting than you! and that instead of breaking the door down to have you, they hardly have the strength to give you a decent hug, let alone anything else. That you end up feeling unattractive, useless and desperate. I don't think men cheat generally, they are just lazy!

However I have worked out how to turn the tables and its pretty simple and involves YOUR will power. Men are lazy once they have something on a plate! NEVER EVER BEG or allow them to feel they have the upper hand. If he is doing something that you find dull, i.e TV remove yourself from that enviroment, get dressed up, pop your head round door, and say "am off out, have fun see ya later"...now its irrelevent whether you go see a mate, or pop round your mum's, by having your own existance, wherein HE isn't number 1 and knows it, allows a woman to regain her desirability. I no longer panda after my man, he has to fight for my attention and time, if he's doing something I find dull, or is pre-occupied with other things, I withdraw my attention and company. If am man doesn't HAVE to fight for something, he WON'T!!! Its the path of least resistance for most men and if a woman gives of herself both mentally and physically too much or too easily, a man will take it and sit back and relax, in the knoledge that his woman is "kept". NEVER allow a man to believe he has you completely. If he has the audacity to withdraw sexual attention, then do exactly the same, but in a fun manner...no winging or complaining...suddenly get some new hobbies, meet friends more often, sing, laugh on the phone with a mate, garden, but most importantly LEAVE the house and reduce the attention and time you give him...WAIT till he comes to you...don't ignore him, or sulk, just be full of beans and happy and indulge yourself with new activities THAT DO NOT INVOLVE HIM!!! He will suddenly start looking at you in a whole new manner and be selective, sometimes be TOO BUSY to go to bed with him!!! You've got a quiz night to go to, or meeting with a friend for dinner, or your just not in the mood, but all in a fun manner, NEVER WINGE or be too aloof! HE WILL END UP BEGGING YOU!!!

Come on girls re-gain your power!!! and if after that he's still not interrested my advice to you, is dump him, because in the long run you'll only end up hating him...Take care all Cxxxx

I seriously don't get this, I'm 21 and he's even younger than me but doesn't want to have sex with me, I've also found some messages he's been sending to girls, i guess nothing has ever happened but he still does it, he even created a secret account to do this kind of stuff. I don't understand why he won't have sex with me, I've tried everything outfits and stuff but it just never seems to be enough for him, I am confused, I don't know what to do, I need sex, just like any other girl. Oh and plus, we live in different cities so when i come to see him for a week, we do it just once and then i leave and he doesn't even want to do it the night before i leave, this is suspicious, please tell me if you guys think that he is cheating because it really looks like it.

see i told you he wouldnt be cheating on you.... talking to him is always the best way... when he comes home from work open the door in some really kinky underwear and high heels... or nothing and high heels! spice things up and make them spontanious again, it will be like you just got together ;-) good luck xxx