Life Coach Crystal Dwyer describes the relationship between a woman's negative thoughts and depression and shares how hypnosis can help.
Our subconscious mind holds thought and belief patterns that actually place conditions on our happiness. We are not even aware this is going on, but often if those conditions aren’t met, then our subconscious mind tells us we can’t be happy. It literally tells us that something is wrong with our lives, and this is going on subconsciously. So our own minds are literally setting us up to experience depression and hopelessness.
Hypnosis is a powerful therapy for helping lift women out of depression. It actually goes in, with hypnosis we can go in and address those thought and belief programs that aren’t supporting a woman’s happiness and well-being, and then we purge those in various ways and move forward, introducing and implementing thought and belief programs that will actually support a woman’s well-being, joy and happiness.
Some of the ways that we use in hypnosis is we do an examination. We sort of do a regression into the past to find out some of those belief and thought patterns that were established, where they were established, how they were established. A lot of times we have taken in this information that is acting as the filter for the processing of the rest of our lives.
We have taken this in as a child; an incident might have happened when we were 5 years old, 10 years old, and we interpreted that situation a certain way and we laid down the programming. And that, the emotional residue from that experience could be locking us into this belief programming and these conditions that we have set up for ourselves that make us feel extremely unhappy because if those conditions are really set up, which most of them are, to meet some of our core needs, because we all have core needs as a human being, as a woman we have core needs that need to be met. So if our brain is telling us this is a condition we have to have to have that core need met, it literally makes it impossible to experience happiness.
So we go backwards and we address those specific incidents that happened, and we sort of challenge the truth of those because remember, they were being interpreted at a certain age, under certain circumstances, and with the perceptions that we had at the time that may have been wrong about the person we were dealing with. And even in situations where the perpetrator or the person we dealt with was harsh, was unfair, was cruel or was, you know, even worse things, we can still neutralize those emotions and reframe the feelings around it, reframe basically the story and create a new story because the stories that we tell ourselves that are going on in subconscious mind often aren’t true.
The subconscious is not able to discern truth from non-truth. It basically is a storage tank. Our conscious mind discerns truth, you know, as an adult, as to the degree that we understand truth, but our subconscious mind can hold patterns that don’t contain a shred of truth, yet we continue to operate by these as if they are true. So, we try to kind of root everything out, I call it mind excavation, root out what’s below, kind of expose it to the light of day and say, “What is real here?”
And since it doesn’t really matter what happened then, let’s rewrite the story. Instead of saying, you know, “My mother hated me and I can’t live without my mother’s love,” we can say, you know, “My poor mother had some mental issues that really made it impossible for her to express her love to me, and that’s really sad for her. It was sad for me, but it’s really sad for her. And as painful as that was, I am ready to extend some compassion for her and to forgive her,” and forgiveness is one of those tools, part of that process that I am talking about.
It’s very important to forgive because without forgiveness, we still have an attachment to this person who is, who created this unhappiness or who in our perception created this unhappiness in our life. That’s how we are able to move forward. Then once we do that cleansing process, then we specifically decide what is it that we want? What do we want out of life? What relationship could we have if there’s any possibility?
You know, we could say, “I am going to love my mom for all of her thoughts, insufficiencies, and I don’t need her to love me in a certain way in order to love her because I am whole already.” And we just introduce the wholeness because really, we don’t want to live our lives relying on anything outside of us.
Most people, most women live their lives depending on all of these things, allowing everything outside of them to affect them. And what I try to teach women is to really depend on your inner resources, to understand the process of life creation and use it deliberately so you can depend on that to create your reality and to create the life of your dreams, really. There’s no limitation once you learn this technology of life creation.
About Crystal Dwyer:
Crystal is certified by the American Board of Hypnotherapy, Member of the International Coaching Federation, and Certified by the Chopra Center of Well-Being as a Meditation Instructor. Through Crystal’s personal coaching, speaking, CD programs, videos, books, and articles, people all over the world have experienced profound and lasting transformation in relationships, career, health & wellness.