Dr. Brotto explains if something is wrong if you don't want as much sex as your partner.
Very, very common question, and you know the large studies find it that’s the most common concern that women have, and so we need to look at that within a couple of contexts. We can’t say, even if the woman herself is stepping forwards, seeking medical help and saying, "I think there’s something wrong with me. I don’t want sex as much as my partner," her level of desire may be quite normal given the situation, so we really need to look at, where is the discrepancy between hers and her partner’s desire. Maybe he has hyper sexuality.
There could be any number of reasons why there’s that discrepancy between their level of desire. So despite the fact that a low desire is probably the most common concern we see in post-menopausal women, it doesn’t mean she’s got a sexual desire disorder. She may, but there’s likely many dozen other reasons to account for why things are different.
About Dr. Brotto, Ph.D., R. Psych.:
Dr. Lori Brotto is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of British Columbia and a Registered Psychologist with the BC College of Psychologists. She conducts research on women’s sexual health and difficulties, develops and test psycho-educational interventions for women with sexual desire and arousal complaints, and studies additional sexual health topics including, culture and sexuality, hormones and sexual desire, cancer and sexuality, HPV and sexuality, and asexuality. She received her PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of British Columbia and trained at the University of Washington, completing a one-year internship in the Department of Psychiatry, and two-year Postdoctoral Fellowship in Reproductive and Sexual Medicine.
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