Dr. Brotto explains how a woman can care for her partner's medical disease and still maintain a sexual desire toward for person.
As there’s more and more relationships between the individuals, right, the co-parent, one’s caregiver of the other, they're lovers, as those numbers of relationships increase it has a toll, it takes a toll on their sexual relationship, and I’ll give you a really simple example to illustrate this.
What kind of partnership would we classify as having the highest degree of sexual passion and pleasure and romance? Two people who don’t know each other or maybe who have just met each other for the first time, who don’t have all those additional relationships between them, the mystery is there and we know that mystery fuels passion.
So, in the face of a long-term relationship where all of these additional responsibilities in relationships have developed, you almost want to create a little bit of distance. You want to create a little bit of mystery. If feasible, is it possible to divert some of the caretaking responsibilities to someone else, save that role for someone else, so that some of the sexual relationship between the partners can be preserved.
That may not necessarily be feasible in all individuals, and so it's finding other ways in which the couple can create a little bit of distance without sacrificing the caretaking that she is giving to her partner. Yeah, and there is no easy way, I can’t say, "Well, she should just do this."
It’s, the couples need to find some way to create enough distance so that the mystery is still there.
About Dr. Brotto, Ph.D., R. Psych.:
Dr. Lori Brotto is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of British Columbia and a Registered Psychologist with the BC College of Psychologists. She conducts research on women’s sexual health and difficulties, develops and test psycho-educational interventions for women with sexual desire and arousal complaints, and studies additional sexual health topics including, culture and sexuality, hormones and sexual desire, cancer and sexuality, HPV and sexuality, and asexuality. She received her PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of British Columbia and trained at the University of Washington, completing a one-year internship in the Department of Psychiatry, and two-year Postdoctoral Fellowship in Reproductive and Sexual Medicine.
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