Personal strategist Charly Emery shares three tips to keeping the passion in a long-term relationship.
Ladies, here’s three tips for keeping the sizzle in your relationship. Now you know, lots of times with primary relationships all that stuff starts to go out the window, but I am telling you it doesn’t have to so here they are.
Number one, be curious. Don’t think that you know him just because you live with him and you’ve been married for years perhaps. It doesn’t matter how long you are with someone; we are changing every single day.
Retain your curiosity. Be curious about what else there is to learn and it will keep a level of excitement and create an environment in which he knows that he can continue to grow as well.
Number two key would be listen, and I don’t just mean with your ears, I mean with every part of you. You ever go into a party or a barbeque and you arrive late you find yourself hesitating and just getting a feel for what’s going on and where the conversation is at. Why not do the same thing every day in your relationship?
In those moments when you are sitting down and you are having dinner listen with your whole heart and soul. If he is having a tough day; if you are having a tough day you lead by example and the more that you listen, the more that you learn about him but at the same time, the more you listen to him the more you will find him start listening to you.
And what’s the third key to keep the sizzle in your relationship – surprise him. Maybe there’s a time where, I know if you have kids it gets a little bit busy but you know what, what if maybe you say, “You know what honey, we are going to do breakfast in bed later after we put the kids to bed.” If it’s one of those days where it’s just really, really long, surprise him; do something a little different. Just don’t allow yourself to stay in a routine day after day after day. You won’t believe how much he will actually respond to that and how good it will make you feel too.