Let’s face it, it's inevitable. We have to age. Our children grow up, our hair turns gray, we stop having our periods, and our skin becomes thinner and more wrinkled. We can't stay young forever — and who would even want to?
But that doesn’t take away the fear that we are losing control of ourselves, the uncertainty that rises, and the worry we feel that our lives will change in ways we won’t like. Ways that are hard to accept.
Here are some of the fears women are concerned about when they age and what we can do about them.
1) Fear of losing our looks
Its no wonder we fear becoming unattractive. Every magazine photo and TV commercial blasts us with images that convince us what beauty is — Beauty is young.
What's important is to not dismiss those feelings as silly or shallow. We are not being self-indulgent to mourn the loss of our previous self. But, we have to acknowledge that we can’t possibly look the same at 47 or 57 as we did at 27.
If you want to color your hair or have procedures such as Botox or face peels, then do them. They are temporary fixes that are less likely to cause harm.
However, springing for plastic surgery to re-plump your breasts or reshape your face can backfire. Those new breasts may be surrounded by arms that are no longer firm, or your new face may contrast against a wrinkly neck.
Instead of feeling better about yourself, you are now focused on the next part of your body that is showing your age, warns Vivian Diller, a New York City psychologist and co-author of the 2010 book, "Face It: What Women Really Feel as Their Looks Change and What to Do about It," as reported in the Los Angeles Times.
2) Fear of getting cancer or dementia
Despite the fact that medicine has made tremendous advances in the treatment of cancer, the word cancer still strikes fear in our hearts. The thing is, heart disease is actually the number one killer of women in the United States, according to Caring.com.
How dementia develops is still being studied, but certain factors such as physical activity and brain stimulation are thought to ward it off, Healthy Woman.org reminds us.