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Many years ago before talk of HPV like today, my pap test came back abnormal. I had two more pap tests (3 months between each) and was told I had precancerous cells. I asked how did this happen? The doctor said and I quote, "From having sex." There was no mention of HPV. I was baffled. I only had sex with my husband. He was the only (and still is) man I had ever had sex with. We had been together for 20 years. The doctor never said from having sex with multiple partners. I had cryosurgery and was fine. Now I am wondering if my husband had been unfaithful. I want the truth. I am very upset that the doctor patronized me. The doctor is long gone, as are the medical records. P.S. I just caught my husband cheating recently. Ironically, 20 years later. Is there any other reason than HPV that this could have happened or am I in denial?
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Hi Kate;
My experience is so much like yours. I've been married to my husband for more than 40 years. He is and has been my only sex partner. Years ago, I found something unusual that I needed to see my doctor about. I was told that I had genital warts. When I asked how I could have gotten them, my doctor answered, "Well.....you don't get them by sitting on a toilet seat!" That was it. No other explanation. I was given some medication and that was that. Dumb me! I had never had an inkling that my husband might be having affairs. Though I was puzzled, it never occurred to me that my husband had transmitted an STD to me. However, before long, it all came to light. Because I had five children, I elected to stay with my husband. Several years later, I was treated for cervical cancer. I'm absolutely fine now, but would you believe I've only recently put the whole thing together and realized my husband had given me the virus and that HPV was the cause of my cervical cancer. Though I no longer have cancer, I do have plenty of resentment for what I went through......and more than a little anger at myself for being so naive. Good luck to you.
August 6, 2009 - 5:34pmThis Comment
Hi,
August 7, 2009 - 11:01amFor the lady with five children who had a similar experience as I. (HPV) How do you feel toward your husband? Our 40th anniversary is happening this month and my husband is planning a big surprise for me. I told him I've had enough surprises and we don't have much to celebrate as far as our relationship. We've been to counseling. He lied in counseling so you know how much good that did. I want him to look me in the eyes and tell me the truth. There is a tooth fairy isn't there? It will never happen. I do not have a job ouside the home and would not have health insurance if I left. To top it off we are raising a granddaughter. In a few years she will be off to college. I don't want to rock the boat for her sake. He didn't care. He risked everything.
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