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ask: Is 45 too old to have a baby??

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I'm recently married and my new husband and I have started talking about having a baby together. Not right away, but maybe we'd start trying in the next year or two. I have a couple of teenagers from my previous marriage and this is his first marriage (no kids). The problem is timing - we're not getting any younger!! We're both in our 40's - I'll be turning 45 later this year, and when I had my last baby at age 31, I thought I was totally done having kids. I never would have dreamed I'd even be thinking about another baby, but of course I never ever dreamed I'd get divorced and then remarried.

My question to other moms out there is what your opinion is on having a baby later in life. I'd love to know ALL your feelings on this. At the moment, I'm so enjoying my teenagers and love the fact that they're each becoming so independent and that we can do so many fun things together. I love my independence as well, and how much easier this part of my life is. As much as I'd love to have a baby with my husband at some point, I'm wondering if adding a new baby into the mix would be completely insane at this "middle-aged" stage of the game. What do you think? I could sure use some advice!

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April 25, 2015 - 10:12am
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I am currently 46 ( will turn 47 in Sept. ) my husband and I are considering trying for one more. I have 4 children ranging in age from 26, 23, 7 and 4. My last pregnancies were at the ages of 39 and 42. My pregnancies were wonderful as always. I am one of those women who absolutely love being pregnant. I am one of the blessed ones to have pretty much no stretch marks. I know the likelihood of getting pregnant at my age is slim but possible. Took me no time to get pregnant at 42. I am a woman of faith and I am trusting in God that if it is in His will then it will happen. If not...I have been blessed with 4 beautiful children!

April 24, 2015 - 12:44pm
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I just found out I am pregnant at 45 and reading all your comments has allowee me to cry tears.pf joy and hope rather than fear. Thank you all.

April 20, 2015 - 4:30pm
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Anonymous

I loved reading all the stories from everyone :) I'm 44 years old and I have a beautiful healthy 5 1/2 month old son. He came as a complete surprise or perhaps shock to me to be honest, I was told I would never have children ever after failed attempts of infertility treatments with my husband (ex now) I had resided to the fact that perhaps I would never have children, and this was all in Gods plans. After a rough 6 months in my life the loss of my father, my divorce and the loss of my only nephew all within 2 1/2 months, I couldn't believe when I went to the Dr. to find out 2 weeks later that I was pregnant (deer in headlights look) Pardon? Pregnant? Did you use my pee? LMAO yes I asked that question.... I was so over the moon with happiness, and at the same time so scared as I was 43 at the time, I had tests I was asked to do additional testing for possible downs and a list of other items, I chose not to go through with amniocentesis and all those other fancy blood tests. I made that choice because no matter what I could have been facing this was my gift from God, the one thing I wanted all my life. I'm very thankful I made the choices I made and I'm even more thankful that it's now in my life. I couldn't imagine life without him now. I wish you all the luck in the world, do what feels right for you if you feel healthy and really want to try then GO FOR IT! :)

April 15, 2015 - 10:30am
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Anonymous,
Your story is just like mine. I will be turning 46 in July. My husband and I married 10 years ago this November. I have two sons (18 and 22) from a previous marriage. My husband, however, has not been married before and has no children. We have been trying to conceive since we got married without any success. I just went to my OBGYN for a wellness check because I began experience what I thought was symptoms of perimenopause. To my surprise, I have found out that I am actually 12 weeks pregnant. I can't really offer any great advice since this is also a new experience for me. I do have a couple of friends that have had babies after they turned 40 and both had normal pregnancy and their babies were healthy. I wish you all the best.

April 14, 2015 - 9:11am
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I have been there. I found out I was pregnant when I was 44, and was surprised. I was not expecting to be able to get pregnant. I was told with my previous pregnancy 5 years prior that I was not ovulating every month, though I was still having a period each month. We had become lax with birth control, feeling pretty confident in the fact we would not become pregnant - even though my pregnancy at age 39 had also been unexpected. So after finding out I was pregnant at age 44 - I went through the normal series of tests, which all came out normal and at 45 I gave birth at full term to a beautiful baby girl. And that was 9 1/2 years ago. She has been a true light in our lives! I could not imagine my life without her. Parenting later in life does have it's advantages. I really seem to enjoy every minute. She has 3 teenage sisters and one brother in his mid 20's, she has grown up quickly - singing songs by pop stars rather than twinkle twinkle little star. (all on video) She has kept us all young. My older kids have loved the extension of the Santa and Easter Bunny Years, she sings and dances through days of teenage girl drama going on around her, she loves to hug and be hugged. She gives us all the point of view that should never be forgotten - that of a child. She has truly kept me young. My dad always told me your kids keep you young- though he also said we gave him his grey hair - I have had many days of feeling overwhelmed when she was young as any new mother, and feeling tired through the years - but my dad was right. When I am around women who I know are my age- they assume I am younger because of the age of my youngest - so though everything she does keep me younger in the eyes of others. Something my sister and I still laugh about. So my advice would be to not worry, enjoy your pregnancy the best you can, it will probably be the last time to feel those kicks in you tummy, and hug your baby close and enjoy every minute. Enjoy all the moments that seem to be easily passed by in our younger parenting days - And welcome to the club of those who will probably never truly be empty nesters- when our youngest leaves the nest - our nest will quickly be filled with grandchildren. I would say we are lucky.

April 2, 2015 - 12:21am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

That was beautifully written.

Thank you

April 25, 2015 - 1:09pm
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Anonymous

I am turning 44 in three months. I started living together with my fiancé December, and just found out that I am four weeks pregnant. I am very happy and thankful that this happened so quickly and naturally. I am scared too, more for the higher risk in potential health issues for the Child. I started a daily five-mile-walk routine about ten months ago just to get healthier overall (before I met my fiancé). I think that really prepared my body well. I intend to continue that as long as my body allows it. I also think I am much wiser and financially secure today for motherhood and be able to provide a better environment for the child. I will continue to pray that he/she will be healthy.

March 31, 2015 - 1:53pm
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I'll be turning 45 in a week, I am currently 30 weeks pregnant, and got pregnant naturally, my EDD is June 5th 2015! I learned that as long as you are healthy and still having healthy periods, concieving naturally is possible! I am excited to meet my 3rd son who we're naming Jacob. I have 2 sons from a previous marriage, they are grown men now in their mid 20s! I feel truly blessed to be expecting again.

March 27, 2015 - 12:34pm
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I'll be turning 45 in a week, I am currently 30 weeks pregnant, and got pregnant naturally, my EDD is June 5th 2015! I learned that as long as you are healthy and still having healthy periods, concieving naturally is possible! I am excited to meet my 3rd son who we're naming Jacob. I have 2 sons from a previous marriage, they are grown men now in their mid 20s! I feel truly blessed to be expecting again.

March 27, 2015 - 12:34pm
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