ask: Is 45 too old to have a baby??

Im 45 and i have just never met the right person in life. I was reading the thread and I so desperately want to have a child, so have considered adoption but unfotunately they have this weird rule that you cannot have a baby, you have to have an eight year old for instance because they feel 45 is too old. I even looked into surroacy but they wont consider me as I am a single parent. I am now considering IVF, but i just wanted to see about complications etc... but I see quite alot of you out there have or are plannning babies at 45.... i feel so much better.

Thank you all for sharing you thoughts and advice. I am in the same position as many of you...in my early 40's and getting remarried soon. My guy would love to have a baby as he has no kids of his own. I am 40 now- will be 41 this year and recently got divorced. I have a daughter from my previous marriage- she is almost 22. I am scared as my doctor says it's difficult as we get older! So does our eggs!! After reading some of the posts- I have hope as I an healthy, only thing I take high blood pressure pills. I believe we can just pray and leave it in GOD's hands!

I am 44, pregnant with #5, and am due after I turn 45. We did not have to use donor eggs. My last child was born when I was 42. My older children were born while I was in my 20's. I can tell you I have way more energy now than I did then, and have enjoyed every moment. As long as you are healthy, there is no reason you can't have a baby at 45.

I learned the hard way that waiting just that couple years may take away most of your options. The difference between 42 and 44 in most women is drastic as far as success, FSH levels, etc. The longer you wait, the more likely you'll need to use donor eggs.
I'm pregnant and having my first at 45 (first for both of us), but it took over $30,000 and donor eggs because I waited just a bit too long. My FSH at 42 gave us a chance but the doctor I used wasn't a fertility specialst and didn't take care of things well. By 44 when we switched to a specialist, my FSH had more than trippled in two short years, meaning my egg quality had plummeted.
If any women out there are wanting a baby over 40, I'd totally say go for it! But I wouldn'd advise waiting at all because the quality and risk degernate so very quickly.

I am 44 yrs old and 32 weeks pregnant. My husband is 38 and this is his first child. I find it a blessing and gift for him to have a child of his own. I have 2 daughters from a previous marriage and they are 15 and 12. He is a great step dad to them and we are all excited to have this experience amongst our family unit. Is this pregnancy as easy as when I was 28 and 32 with the others? NOOOOO! lol. I don't remember it being quite so tiring and ill feeling at this later part of this pregnancy. Also, I went through so many rough experiences like being told that I failed one of the blood tests and my child probably has Down's. Cried and cried. Went to high risk Dr. they sent me to and he was kinda a jerk. All he wanted me to do was have an amniocentesis which I refused. Then weeks later another high risk Dr. told me to do the Harmony test that is not invasive but a simple genetic blood screen that is 99% accurate for detecting Down's Syndrome! It was negative. So I'm in the clear. I also had to go through the nasty 4 hour glucose tolerance test because of the one that I failed the first time when you drink it and they only draw blood once. Passed it, as did with the first two children. My stomach has been horrible for 6 months now. Went through all kinds of tests/stool samples, even went to gastrologist= he feels its the pregnancy that is reacting on my body and should reside once have my child....Let's only pray cuz running to the bathroom all day is sooooo old! ;)
Otherwise, I am ecstatic about having my 3rd daughter. I am worried no doubt that I will be 50 when she starts kindergarten and my youngest will have graduated high school the summer before.....but everything happens for a reason and I feel blessed that God has allowed 2 soul mates to experience the gift of life together.

I am engaged to someone who has a 18 and a 21 year old. I have none and really want one of my own, but I am overweight and have a heart murmur, slight but its there. Any advice please?

If you are healthy, there is no reason not to I think, though the complications can be worse. The end result is so worth it! I have since found out that I have thyroid and parathyroid problems which may have attributed to my miscarriages - not so much age at all! Doctors tend to only check your TSH these days, no longer your FT3 and FT4 - I would ask for those tests if you can find a nice doctor to do them and save yourself some misery if they are out. My calcium is high as well, so taking the pregnancy vitamins didn't help my cause! But miraculously, we now have a healthy 7yr old boy that I had at 39 and a beautiful 19month old girl at 45 - we are over the moon :)

Hello, This is a wonderful thread! I am 44 and want to have a child. I am so glad to see there are others who have great experiences.