Hi I had my period last month 2/9 and ended 2/14. It's now 3/18 and no period, am I pregnant?

Ipretty,

Hi, and welcome to EmpowHer! Let's see what we can figure out.

So March 1 was Day 1 of that cycle.

That means that March 30 was day one of your next cycle. That is 29 days apart, which is pretty normal. How far apart are your periods normally?

And now (about 11 days later) you are feeling tired and crampy and headachy. No, I don't think you can be pregnant. The March 30-April 3 period pretty much guarantees that. You might just be feeling tired and run down; are you under a lot of stress?

And in terms of your question about February, yes, since it is a short month, that's why you had two periods that were in March. If February had been 30 days long, for instance, you would have started on Feb. 29 or 30 instead of March 1.

It's more important to know the number of days between your cycles than it is to know the calendar date, for exactly this reason. I think you're fine, but that you might need some rest or relaxation for the fatigue and headaches... are they common?
Or is this out of the ordinary for you?

Anon,

You say your period had been done for weeks, though it came twice this month due to stress. If I had to guess, I would guess that the stress has your hormones a little overloaded right now and this is why you are having episodes of bleeding. However, it could be other things as well.

Are you having cramping? Is there any abdominal pain associated with the bleeding after sex?

You first wrote to us a couple of weeks ago; has this happened since then?

Anon,

I actually see three reasons in your question that could be responsible for your period being late or missing, and none of them really have to do with sex. (That would be the fourth.)

First, the fact that you recently started working out (Congratulations! Go you!!!) after being dormant for years and that you ran 25 miles this month can be completely responsible for the change in your menstrual cycle. By exercising, we actually do change up the levels of hormones in our bodies, and it can take a little while to adjust. Are you eating normally or has there been a change in that as well?

2. The fact that you are really stressed over school can affect your cycle.

3. The fact that your boyfriend just moved in -- which is wonderful, but is also a whole other level of stress, isn't it? -- can also affect your cycle.

In short, all these things mean that you have had an extraordinary month. I have no doubt that this is what's causing your cycle to be irregular (especially since you used to be irregular). Your hormones are just a little crazy from the changes, but they should settle themselves down over time.

Now, to the sex. If you don't want to get pregnant and don't want to take birth control pills, you have to be extra sure that the condoms never break. If they do, you'll want to go to the pharmacy and get Plan B, the morning after pill. It's best to take it within 24 hours, but as long as you take it within 72 hours you should be fine.

Does this help a little? I would expect your period will come, either late or perhaps you're just skipping a month. Since the pregnancy tests are all negative, I think your body is just responding to the enormous changes of the last month. Once things settle down a bit, I think your cycle will, too.