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How do I know if a loved one is depressed?

By June 27, 2014 - 2:02pm
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I think a family member is depressed however they deny they are depressed and won't seek any help or talk about it. What are the signs of depression and how can I help them? Are there articles I can share with them to help them see their own problem

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My husband suffers from clinical depression and another symptom to add to Maryann's list is anger - real fits of anger sometimes for no apparent reason. If you can stay calm during an outburst it usually does not last very long and is usually followed by tears and remorse. Being supportive and loving is the most important action you can take to help your family member, however, depending on how severe you consider their problem to be, especially if they are in denial about their depression, I would advise that you approach them saying initially that you are worried and concerned. It is possible that the person will reject any suggestion that there is anything wrong and if this does happen, you should leave the conversation for another day when you may be more successful. Keep trying gently, eventually you will get through and the family member will seek professional help, they will also thank you for your support at this difficult time in their life.

July 21, 2014 - 4:27am

Hello Ali,

Odds are, a depressed person knows that she is depressed.

Symptoms of depression include:

Loss of pleasure
Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" feelings
Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism
Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
Irritability, restlessness
Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sex
Fatigue and decreased energy
Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions
Insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping
Overeating, or appetite loss
Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts
Aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease even with treatment.

The first step to getting appropriate treatment is to be evaluated by a physician or psychiatrist.

Ali, showing your family member an article about depression will be of no help. Be supportive. Listen without passing judgement or offering advice. Give unconditional love.


June 27, 2014 - 5:40pm
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