I am not sure my boyfriend is attracted to me. Please help!!!

Same with my bf...
And trust me, it's probably not you, it's likely him.
Does he watch a lot of porn? Because he's probably wanking it everyday and he's got nothing "left" for you. That would explain him not getting hard, or him being "too tired".
Not sure if watches a lot of porn? Does he take long showers? Does he stay up late at night? What's his behavoir like?

Well I have had the same issue for 2 years now. We have had sex three times in 2 years. I have fought, cried, hurt and been at the point of disppear.
We are at the point where I have just gone numb from all the hurt and fighting to keep my self esteem up.
Our relationship is not in a good place. I started flirting with a complete stranger on social media a few months ago. I was lonely and wanted the attention to be honest. What I saw was harmless, might be the nail in the coffin in our relationship. He read the messages, scowled through my emails one day. Even thou what I had said was just flattery in reply and nature, I have broken his trust.
Our relationship breakdown seems now to be my fault, though I feel his contribution has come from the years on constant rejection and excuses of why we shouldn't have sex.
You can love someone, but sometimes love is not enough. He says he loves me, but I have always doubted his words due to the lack of intimacy and desire in our relationship.
Now he doubts my love for him, due to my resulting actions.
Try to talk it out, even show him my message to allow him to see, that eventually we all need someone's attention, innocent or not.
I wanted it with my partner, but it is just something I dont believe that I will ever be able to have. So now I too have been reassessing whether this relationship is something that I want for the rest of my life.
You can't change someone's desire for you, so eventually you need to make a choice of what will make you happy in the end.
For me.... I need both love and a deep connection of intimacy with the one I share my life with...
The hard part is letting go of what little of it I actually have.

Goodluck

I am having the same problem with my boyfriend. Only difference is I am 19 and he is 24. It all started out great, and over the one year that we have been together (my longest and most serious relationship) things have been changing. We used to make love every time we had an hour or two to ourselves, then it was a few times a week (normal), then it was down to once or twice a month. I moved in with him 6 or so months ago and our sex life went down from there. Then, a week before Valentines day, we had the best sex I've ever had, and then it stopped. A several weeks ago we were a few minutes in and he told he didn't even care if he ejaculated. It bothers me and makes we feel ugly. He's been turning me down for a few weeks and I know that he masturbates 4 out of 7 days a week because I looked on him computer (I thought he was cheating). He enjoys seeing me naked, if he wakes up while I'm getting dressed in the morning he'll watch me and smile, and then I'll leave for my classes. And instead of me coming home to an aroused smile, I come to him laptop full of porn. I love this guy and this is our only problem. We are talking about getting married in a few years but I don't want a sex-less marriage. HELP!

It gives me courage to know that other women have been going through the same thing as me! I thought it was only me. Being rejected sexually can break a woman down in ways that are unthinkable. Feb 2014 i started dating a guy that was 32 years old. A decade older than me. Our relationship was great at first, very passionate. We use to kiss each other passionately each time we spent together and he kept begging me to make love to me. I told him that i was a virgin and he told me that this fact made him respect and love me more. The very first we tried to have sex, he got an erection for two minutes and went down. He still tried to penetrate me but it kept coming off because first, he wasn't hard, second, i was a virgin.It's like he got dissapointed after seeing me naked, like it wasn't what he expected. i felt very sad but i thought maybe it was him, not me. A second time, same thing, he couldn't get an erection. It made me feel really bad because he was the very first and only guy that i finally accepted to give my body to. In all my pass relationship, I had been very strict about keeping my virginity. but despite that, i decided to keep going with because i didn't want to break up with for failing just twice. But About five times, we tried, same thing. Hekept telling it's because he drinks too much, it'ssomething that he controls, it's because he doesn't want to yet... I felt ashamed, unattractive, especiallybecause i was always insecure about having extremly small breast and a thin body. However , i could never state out loud and admit that he wasn't sexually attracted to me which was the truth. I broke up with him, november on my birthday. i have been dating a man that lovevery much since a month now. We haven't got the point of trying to havesex, he hasn't seen me naked. He tells meall the time that he wants to make love to me but wehaven't hadthe chance yet. i'm suffering because i'm very scared that once he sees me naked, the same thing is going to happen. I try to be honest with him and tell him i'm likely flat chested but i wear bras that make my breast look like normal size. He tells me he loves me for me, that's not all that counts. But i'mstill very afraid andanxious thinking that the same thing will happen, and i will once againg find myself in a relationship with no sexual life. i desire this man so much. i'm very attracted to him. Any advice?

All these comments about the guy possibly being gay are off the mark.

There is a chemical thing that happens where a woman catches a man sexually, in his heart and soul and body. If it's not there, sex is friendly, warm, nice to be together, but that sort of sex fizzles quickly.

It is very difficult to say, "I'm sorry but you really don't do it for me. I like you, you are a great person, but whether it's chemicals that wore off or something else, I'm really not that explosively into you sexually.

You could blame it on "I'm too fat, I'm too thin" or whatever else you may think it could be but it comes down to animal chemicals. Once that's gone, you are a sister to him.

I couldn't keep my hands off my ex-wife for 11 years. No matter what else was going on, I was a slave to her beauty and her lovely body. We broke up over other matters and the next girlfriend I got, same thing - just explosive between us sexually. We fought like crazy, too, but always, always, that throbbing, sexual energy was there between us.

Honey, he's just not into you anymore.

i been having the same problem for the past 3 months ... most of the time hes tired to have sex or when im feeling the need for love and sex he just shoot me down telling me ( ohh baby im going to bed ) but then i see him online looking for a 3rd wish i this point in my life i dont have a problem ... he tells me im sexy and all that ... but i just dont feel it ... dont know what to do ... i think it will be time for me to move on ... but i just dont want to make the mistake of doing this and then regret it ....