My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years now, I am 22 and he is 23, but he recently told me that he does not have the urge to get married. Now, I recognise that we are still both really young and we don't want to get married any time soon, but I feel like after 7 years he should at least know he wants to one day marry me.
He told me that he never thinks about marriage but he does want me to be that person, he just doesnt see it. He talked about how he wants to get his career on track first and that he feels he is not going anywhere in life and that he can't bring himself to tell me we'll get married soon. He doesnt want to make a promise that we will get married after he is successful because he is unsure when that will happen, and it would be unfair for me to wait around. Does this mean that he loves me but doesnt see us getting married ever or is it actually because he wants to get his life on track before he starts thinking about anything else?
He did say that he wants to stay with me if I dont mind waiting, but he also feels like we lost our passion. (sorry i'm all over the place but i'm trying to give you some background). We are both willing to do whatever it takes to try and work it out. And he keeps saying that he loves me and wants it to work and he wants to see me as his wife. I love this man SO much and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him already, he's just not ready to even consider that.
I'm extremely confused right now, I dont know if it is better to keep trying to make things better or if we should go on an indefinate break to "discover ourselves".
**EDIT** I forgot to mention that we do not have sex very often. But when we do it is mindblowing! The catch is that he mentioned that he does not want to do it often becasue he feels like he is taking advantage of me. So I have no idea what that means.
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