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ask: reasons for a women to hold back sex

By Anonymous

what can be the reasons for a women dated for a long time keeping relationship status undefined and simultaneously withholding sex?

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Anonymous

Thank You Christine. Life is full of discoveries. I hope questioning will work since she either keeps silent or tells something that she thinks I wanna hear. For me special elevated prompt situations worked for revealing some truth. Gergoe

February 4, 2011 - 2:35am
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Anonymous

Hello, thanks I'll ask. As she also dated with other and or older and wealthy that I know for few days. What do you think about that this is a kind of tool by that she is trying to assure I stick to her while keeping me on ice for a later time... that she hopes to reach after finishing her current state of life?
Have a nice evening! G.

February 1, 2011 - 2:07pm
Christine Jeffries (reply to Anonymous)

Hi again,
I cannot say what her motivation is for dating you or any other man. You may want to ask her, and then decide if this is the right woman for you based on what you learn. We are not counselors, or psychiatrists, and we can't tell you what to do.
Good luck!

February 2, 2011 - 7:42am
Christine Jeffries

Hi Anonymous,
Thanks for your question and for finding EmpowHER. Have you (gently and in a non-threatening way) asked your girlfriend why she doesn't want to have sex? Communication is key in relationships. Her reason could be religious, based on fear, not wanting a serious relationship, avoiding STD/STIs, or waiting until marriage, among a whole host of possible reasons. She should be your best source for getting to the bottom of it, and making sure you are both of similar mind when it comes to sexual activity.
What do you think? Good luck, and let us know if you have more questions.

February 1, 2011 - 8:53am
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