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What age can i have a baby at, before i'm too old

By Anonymous February 22, 2010 - 12:01pm
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Hi, i have just turned 30! Nooooooooo
I have no children yet and i'm afraid i might be turning into one of the women who thinks time is running out so i'd better have a child as soon as i can.
I have heard that its more complicated the older you get and you should try and have a baby before your 35. Is this right?
Also, when we are born, we have are eggs stored in our overies then, ready to start being released when we hit puberty. Is this true and do they deteriorate the older we get? Also is there always enough eggs to last until menopause, or is that when menopause happens, when you run out of eggs. Would going on contraception like the depro injection (or whatever its called) that stops the release of a egg each month, be a good thing to go on, to keep them fresh for when i need them, so to speak. Hope i make sence and maybe i should already know this, but i've never looked up anything like this, as i've only starting thinking about kids for the last year and now even more so.

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Dear Anon

Thanks for your question!

At the age of 30, you should really know all this information. Did you have any kind of sex or reproductive education at school? If not, it might be a good idea to head to your local library and pick up a book about sex and sex education as well as reproduction so that you fully understand how your body works.

Firstly, eggs don't "keep fresh" from lack of ovulation. The quality of a woman's eggs, as well as her ability to conceive easily does start to get weaker after the age of 35 and certainly by 40. However, many women have had healthy pregnancies and babies at 45. It's partly luck, a woman's health in general, as well as the quality of sperm used and good pre-natal care.

Yes, we are born with all our eggs and they mature by our early teens, which is why we start to get our period.

Having a baby in your 30s is very common and very safe. Doctors do pay a little more attention to those over 35 but the vast majority of pregnancies are fine. It isn't until after 40 that difficulties (or higher risks) may occur. But bear in mind that a 20 year old can face a dangerous pregnancy or have a difficult time conceiving. Everybody is different.

Whether time is "running out" for you is your call. Some women want their families complete by 25. Others are content to wait till 35 to even start!

Don't go on birth control to preserve eggs - our bodies don't work that way. Can you tell us how and where you are getting your information from?

It's probably not a good idea to have a child right now until you know how your body and reproductive system works.
There are many books and websites out there that can help you, I used some of them too and they are a great resource-

"What to expect when you're expecting" has a great section on pre-conception. You can find it here: http://www.whattoexpect.com/preconception/landing-page.aspx

Empowher has a great article about pre-conception. You can read all about it here : http://www.empowher.com/media/reference/planning-pregnancy

Lastly, we have a fantastic resource regarding all aspects of a woman's reproductive system right here, I think it'll help you a lot : http://www.empowher.com/media/reference/reproductive-anatomy-and-physiology

Let me know if this information helps you. Do you have a steady relationship with someone who is also thinking about starting a family?

February 22, 2010 - 12:32pm
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