When you have been around as long as me in the world of fertility and baby making, you have heard it all. I am sure that you have heard about drinking Robitussin cough syrup to make your cervical mucus all runny and sperm friendly, right? And how about "Just relax" or "Adopt and you will get pregnant!" (and how insulting is that one to adopted children?) But I bet you have never heard the one about about sniffing the head of a newborn baby, standing on your head after intercourse or putting a frozen bag of peas on your partner's testicles!
If I had to stand on my head after sex to conceive a child, there would never have been a Tyler or a Spencer! I simply don't bend that way! And if I ever threw a bag of frozen peas on Kai's testicles as some kind of kinky fertility friendly foreplay, I would have had to take that game a bit further and bondage would have been necessary!
Sometimes, I wonder why some of this stuff doesn't go away. You know, the way a bad rumor after awhile just fades into the distance and no one repeats it anymore because they know that they will look foolish.
The problem is that attitudes toward people with conception difficulties really hasn't changed much throughout the years. There is still a bit of blame-the -mentality out there when it comes to how the world see fertility problems, and telling someone that all they have to do is relax and not see a doctor is misleading and hurtful. The fact is that too many people wait way too long to see a doctor - the average couples thinks that they should wait for 48 months before consulting a fertility specialist. The real advice is 12 months for a woman who is under the age of 35 and six months for a woman over the age of 35.
A part of the problem is that many of these old wives' tales had some bit of logic in them and are based on some kind of truth! Heat IS bad for sperm production, so hot tubs and tight shorts are no nos! Boxer shorts are in for men who are trying to make a baby! But how did that turn into frozen veggies on a man's testicles?