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Mo' Money, Mo' Problems: Possession-Centric Couples Have More Conflict

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You’ve heard the expression that money can’t buy you happiness and according to a recent study from Brigham Young University, it can’t buy you love either.

Research published in the Oct. 13 issue of the Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, found that couples who have more money also have more relationship problems.

Investigators from BYU analyzed relationship evaluations completed by more than 1,700 married couples across the U.S. and found that “couples who believe that money is not important scored up to 15 percent higher on marriage stability and other measures of relationship quality than materialistic couples,” according to a HealthDay release on the study.

Materialistic couples may have more relationship problems because they think acquiring material possessions will make them more desirable, and perhaps spend less time developing the social aspect of their relationship.

In fact, psychology Professor Leaf Van Boven from the University of Colorado at Boulder found “that people who pursue happiness through material possessions are liked less by their peers than people who pursue happiness through life experiences,” according to his study published in April 2010. If these people are liked less by their peers, it’s a good indicator their significant other may like them less, also.

"The mistake we can sometimes make is believing that pursuing material possessions will gain us status and admiration while also improving our social relationships," Van Boven said. "In fact, it seems to have exactly the opposite effect. This is really problematic because we know that having quality social relationships is one of the best predictors of happiness, health and well-being."

The BYU researchers found that money was a source of conflict for those couples who had a lot of it. And with America becoming more and more possession-driven (think laptops, iPads, flat-screen TVs, Starbucks coffee), this possession-driven unhappiness may affect you and your relationship sometime in the near future, if it hasn’t already.

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