My boyfriend wont have sex with me anymore

So many women with boyfriendsor husbands that just aren't sexual attracted to us anymore.. I was crying while reading the stories/replies and ... I know our relationship isn't and shouldn't be all about sex but damn, if I'm not wanted by him anymore, I really feel like leaving sometimes. He'd rather mess with porn than have sex with me ..

I'm having the same issue and I really don't know what to do.

I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 33, we have been together around a year and moved in together a couple of months ago.

At the start our sex life was really good he was really appreciative and would tell me how good things were etc. over the course of the year I have put on a little bit of weight and he sometimes make light fun of it. I find this to be upsetting because I don't hate my body or feel as if I am unattractive. Yes I could be more in shape but would rather do that for myself than because I feel i have to. My boyfriend is by no means in good shape and I find it hypocritical that he criticises my weight, I would never make hurtful comments to some one about their body image but have found myself recently making snide comments to him in retaliation which upsets me because I'm not that kind of person.

My boyfriend works offshore and is 2 weeks on 2 weeks off so when he comes home I really want to have sex beause I love him and have missed the intimacy.
He is always making excuses why we can't have sexeven when he has an erection although will happily accept blow jobs.
I'm so upset to then pint where i spend most nights in tears I have communicated to him how rejected I feel but nothing seems to change.
I don't know what to do.

I am going to be honest and tell all of the 20 somethings in these so called "long" relationships of 2yrs or less, your 20 something guy walks around with a hard on constantly....he's cheating on you. Young men, & women are very confused, there's so many things out there grabbing their attention, porn? In front of you? Not pleasing you? A good man who loves you WANTS to make you feel good, he wants to get you off before he does, he cringes & sweats to hold back to give you your orgasm. THAT IS what a man who loves you wants for you. Also, two years, is not a long relationship, leave that situation where you are not #1 before it does become a long relationship. The sad truth is it will not get better, think about it, how will it? Will you join in the porn watching if you don't want too? Maybe even let him record you? You are fulfilling HIS fantasy? What about yours?
If you want to share your man to make him happy, that's completely up to you & women do do it, I've only known one young woman who allowed it with a friend of mine, her HUSBAND, surprise, they are now divorced.
Different strokes for different folks. This is true, no one can judge you, but don't do anything you are uncomfortable with to please your man, ask yourself when the last time he pleased YOU was. He should WANT too.
I'm going to guess that more than half the men you ladies are talking about are cheating, and the cold hard truth, they're just not that into you. You deserve better. Leave that dude jacking off to porn who doesn't want to touch you. Leave him.
Long life isn't About sex, it's marrying your best friend, so your life long partner only made love to you for a year or two? No way. I'm on 13 years with my boyfriend, common law marriage, (our choice on marriage for another topic haha) the sex is still new & exciting, we do it wherever we can for fun. No porn stars are in this relationship (he watches, of course, he's s man, but never on MY time) when he is with me, it's about me, and I get my orgasm first (if possible :-) )
SO, I'm saying if this is not working for you now, 1-2yrs in......get out, it won't get better, you are not his queen (as you should be) and he is just not that into you or he is cheating. Especially young men. They seriously walk around with hard on's!!! No excuse!

Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years... sex was perfect at first but then stopped suddenly. We went almost 2 months without it until finally I put my foot down. He went to Germany and came home and we havent had sex in about 3 weeks. He is always tired, which im used to but it doesn't hurt any less. Porn is his best friend but I yell at him all the time. Doesn't help. Anyway, moral of the story is guys and girls can tell when you are insecure about your relationship. So saying you feel like he/she no longer finds you attractive is an insecurity. Be confident and go for it. I know you want to wait for them to make a move but you need to be brave and go all in. It does go a long way. Be bold ladies. Be beautiful and be confident in your relationship. Give your man his space and he will love you more. And as for the porn... im in the same boat. But I learned if you either watch it with them, or look and see what turns them on then you can do whatever he likes. Hope this helps.

Wow it's so crazy how many people are going through this. I been with my fiancé for 6 years and we live together. We don't have sex but once a month. And I don't try to or he doesn't either. I don't know what's wrong because everything else is perfect. But we are just not having sex as we once were and when we do it's like it's over due

I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. He's 22 and I'm 19 and in the last 8 months, our sex life has drastically gone downhill. We used to be at it like rabbits for want of a better expression, and now, I'm lucky if I get any action in 2 months. I've found that he's been watching porn and I guess I'm alright with that to a degree but I think 'instead of doing that, why don't you show some interest in me for a change?'. I love him more than anything, he's my world but it hurts to think that he may not find me attractive anymore. I have confronted him about it in the past but he just responds with 'I don't really think about it'. If our sex life is like this now, what is it going to be like 3 years down the line or when I want children? I have put on a little bit of weight earlier this year due to a medical condition and was put on steroids for quite a number of months, and find it incredibly hard to shift the weight, no matter what I do, but since then (this was in march) he hasn't complimented me once, not even a 'you look nice' when I make an effort. I have never felt so unattractive in my life and it's really damaging my self esteem. I can't even be around him now without make up on whereas before, I could quite easily. I just don't really know what to do now.