My boyfriend wont have sex with me anymore

I'm so glad I'm not alone either. I have been with My partner four years and I'm the last two we have had sex four times .iv told him it not working accused him of cheating he has a stressful job says he s exhausted and don't know why he doesn't feel in the mood evetytime I bring up the subject he gets angry and defensible. He says he needs to see doctor have tests or relationship will be over as i can't continue not to have sex or any intimacy in the relationship. We have a 2 year old but do have the opportunity to have time alone together it's getting me down . I want a healthy relationship that involves making love x

I know you must feel pretty upset and confused. It hasn't been as long for me and I feel that way so I know you must. I wish there was a face to face support group we could have it seems like we all want to be reassured that we aren't the problem. I just don't get it. I feel like my friends look at is as I'm an idiot to believe that he's not sleeping with someone else so I don't even mention it to them during girl talk anymore I avoid the sex topic completely. It's comforting to talk to girls that can understand what I'm going through without judging and speculating.

I feel like I could have wrote this post myself. I am literally going through the exact same thing. We've been together almost 5 years with a few break ups in between. We have a 3 year old daughter together, we live together, we're pretty much like an old married couple without the marriage. I know he loves me, I'm not questioning that but he never wants to have sex with me anymore. I can't even remember the last time he initiated it, it's been several months if not longer. I always have to ask and he ALWAYS says no at first. I pretty much have to beg him to fuck me. And when he finally does, he acts like it's a chore. It's never longer than 5 mins (if I'm lucky) and I can tell he's not really into it the whole time. It's always "take ur cloths off" in a huffy puffy tone. Never anything intimate, or desirable. Hardly ever any foreplay on his end. I sometimes give him a blow job to get him hard but that's it. He never touches me or shows me any effort. If he does give me oral it's because I ask him too (which is humiliating enough on its own) and its a chore to him. I haven't asked him to give me oral in over 2 months and he hasn't offered or just do it once. I feel ugly, rejected, and extremely unwanted. I feel as if he's just not into me anymore. He's the love of my life, father of my child. We used to have sex daily, multiple times a day. I feel so empty and alone. I've started to look for comfort and attention from other places. I haven't acted on anything, but I want too. I need attention, love, to feel wanted, needed, sexy, etc. I bring it up to him almost everyday and today he finally admitted to me that he feels our sex life is boring and he just doesn't have the energy or desire too do it anymore. My heart is shattered. My ego is ruined. I feel so shitty about myself right now. What can I do to make this better? I hope your situation gets better too, I'll keep you in my prayers. Know that ur not alone, if you want to talk reply back and we can email so that way we can at least vent about it to someone who understands.

I hear what your saying ! I have been in the same boat as you but we have been together for more then 10 years.
I wonder if we stay in a unfulfilled relationship because we are afraid to break it off. Cheating will never fix the problem. In fact I'm sure it will make everything worse .

@ashlee u 're right. Am going through the same. I have been with him for 4 years now with a kid. He was all sweet and lovey dovey to me but as soon as I had our kid he changed. And he act some type of way around my female friends, like he doesn't kiss me and that around my female friends like he's ashamed of me. But when we 're left alone he will be all over me.. And even when we re out he doesn't do nothing to me. It's like am walking with a stranger outside :( it's so sad tbh. I feel like am begging him for attention and that not like am not beautiful, I am and I have guys who really wants me but I love my boyfriend and I feel like he's cheating on me cuz whenever he starts his training class as he's always going out.he will stop having an intercourse with me. And each time we argue he would say lots of harsh words to me like. Do u really think am here for u?? I got my girl anyways so I don't care. And also he would say I am too young for his like!. When we finally make up he would apologise and say he didn't meant those words and he ain't got no other girl. Could he be lying?? Cuz we don't have sex anymore like I said. I feel like leaving for him without letting him know my whereabout. And I don't wanna cheat on him either. Could he truly be seeing another girl? Am I wasting my time u think? Cuz am always at home this few weeks with our kid, as he is out doing his training. If I leave now he won't be able to finish his training, because there's no one available to babysit our kid as our families re very busy. Please I need an advice, he doesn't appreciate me after everything I done for me. I been tru alot for him. Please I need to know what could be going on and know what next to do. Life's too short as am only 22 and he's 31.