My husband has a porn addiction, should I let him take pictures of me?

My advice, don't do it. I did it because I thought it would stop the pornography viewing on his part. My husband kept asking me if he could take pics. I finally gave in and said yes. Sadly, I became just one more of the hundreds of other women he looked at. It didn't make any difference in his viewing.

rlyons, perhaps the previous anon comment was responding to the fact that some ladies responding here have jumped from being told he may be addicted to porn. To somehow assuming that if he was , he'd definitely share the pictures on the net.

This is a fallicious piece of logic.

Looking at porn is not about trading things. Its about looking at porn! And there is plenty enough to go around. No need to share.

If he did feel that way, then sure, that would be the issue. But it didn't sound like it.

Again, Silver_girls problem may be that she would worry about that he would do so, but then she needs to state that as the problem before people jump to this sort of conclusion.

The elephant in the room here that people all over the world ignore is that Silver_girl has stated straight away, that her religious views are a main reason why she disapproves.

Personally, I wonder how and when god(s) told anyone that looking at pictures online is bad.

my husband is the same way. i tried letting him take pictures of me. it didnt do any good and now there is all these pictures of me for him to do what he wants with. it doesnt help.

hi ,i guess all husbands tell their wives the same thing,"if you don't want me to wach porn let me take pictures of you" hahahahah pathetic

So.... porn is bad, but naked pictures are good??

Anon, did you READ what silver_girl's problem is?? He husband DOES have a porn addiction, it seems. If there are no issues there, of course its fine to take pictures of each other! Why would it not be??
I believe that sharing pictures between each other OF each other is fine if that makes you both happy as long as no one else sees them. Pornograhy is in a different category, being preformance of sexual acts by people for the tittilaton of the viewer.

My boyfriend and I take nude pictures of ourselves some times but we're not into porn or anything like that. It's just for a little spice to our sex life. And it's just us. I don't see anything wrong with it.

I also agree that porn messes up lives and relationships. I have known men who could not or would not preform with their ladies, as the porn seemed more exciting and it's a slippery slope. It gives the illusion that men can have sex with countless females and what one woman can compete with that? My advice, DO not let him take naked pics of you....the men here gave great comments about where this can lead.
I am not religious atall but strongly believe that the easy acceptance of porn in our culture is emasculating men and estranging women and doing untold damage to relationships.
There are ten year old boys with computer porn addictions(I have met one) and grown men who would rather sit home for hours looking at female after female, orgy after orgy while their wife cries(I have met these people too). Why does society normalise this behaviour? I have a no tolerance policy with my finacee. He dislikes porn and we have an amazing sex life after four years...it gets better and better. Before the internet, there was not as much of a problem....there is always a last page to a magazine afterall.
I feel for you, silver_girl.
I really don't think that it's anything to do with religion though, disliking porn. I feel that it is a human issue and a societal problem of our age.

I think porn is a problem for so many as it takes you out of your real life into this fantasy that you think you want. I have some naked photos of my wife (not digital) from when we first got married. It is fun to think of them from time to time and I when I come across them it is fun, does not happen much as they are hidden away.
I often think of getting rid of them so no one can find them and post them online as that would be devastating to my wife and would break my heart as she is mine and mine alone.

Since your husband has the problem it is good not to take the photos. He would no doubt post them or trade them. Pray for you husband as the world today sees no harm in posting and looking at porn.

Okay time for me to get on soap box: I see porn tearing marriages apart, hindering good judgment, as a society we are debasing ourselves. This tacit if not open acceptance of porn is rotting our minds. Just like you are what you eat, you mind is what you let into it.

Anon4now:
You found one of your wife's love languages "Acts of service".
That is good. I once heard this said about men and women.
Women are like cooking in a crock pot as they take all day to get ready.
While men are like microwaves ready in just a minute.
So you have to be preparing your wife all day long by loving on her in nice ways she likes (doing the laundry, Cooking dinner, giving her a nice hug or soft touches on her back ...). It's all about timing.

I think the main improvement came about because I was bored. If I wasn't going to look for porn, what was I going to fill the time with? I noticed laundry was pretty backed up and started doing it. My wife kissed me and said it was the sexiest thing I had done in a long time. Our sex life hasn't been this good since our first year of marriage (or before probably). Lack of sex had been one of the major justifications for porn in the past. Now it's usually how many times this week vs. how many weeks(or months) has it been? My bedroom performance has also improved (she has always been great, although she doesn't think so) This hasn't been going on long, maybe 4 weeks, but we'll see.
-Anon4Now