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By Anonymous November 25, 2015 - 6:40am
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Hi there
Just to be totally clear. I am in a relationship with an amazing man and we do not do things right now that would pose risks of pregnancy. We only dry hump and touch each other and take extra precautions. Its safe to say i have not had sex at all and these are the only activities we have indulged in.
However, on the 26th Oct i was sexually assaulted by a friend at this party. There was something going on outside and my friends went to see. I have a fractured leg and the guy was new in our circle of friends. He had gone to pick up some snacks from the kitchen for a movie we were all going to watch. He came back and asked me where everyone had gone and suddenly just pounced himself on me and was holding me down and started to dry hump me. The scary bit is when he held his penis in his hand (about 10-20 seconds max). I assume he did not ejaculate because there was no wetness on me. The ONLY thing i am afraid of is pre-cm because i know this poses a slight risk of pregnancy too. I've been trying to research on pre-cm and all it says that guys do not always know when they pre-cm and the pull out method is not so effective but i have not had sex at all...

I was on day 5 of my period so i do not know whether i would've been ovulating so soon?
My period this month is late and i have lost alot of weight due to stress and anxiety. I previously would take microgynon 30 but stopped because of health issues. This month due to this pregnancy scare i took the pills on the 20th, 21st, 22nd and 23rd (last pill on the 23rd due to sudden side effects) but have not yet had my withdrawal bleeding which usually happens when i stop the pill (but am receiving period like cramping). Should i be concerned? I took a pregnancy test last night which was negative.
i apologise if this message is too long. I am receiving counselling but i know this is slowly killing my relationship with my boyfriend because i have become somewhat like a paranoid freak.

Your insight would be appreciated.

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Thank-you Sara123457676781910 for your sympathy and Maryann for your kind words.

I get the bit that sperm can only be in pre-ejaculate fluid if the guy had a previous ejaculation (which i don't think he did because he was pretty much with us all day) and don't even think he masturbated.
The thing i don't get is when you said 'sperm can remain in the urethra'- Is this also implied if he had ejaculated earlier? I only ask this because i do not exactly remember if he urinated

November 25, 2015 - 10:23am
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Hi Anonymous,

Let me explain.
Pre-ejaculate is an alkaline fluid released by the Cowper's glands, which are located at the top of a man's urethra, just below the prostate.

After ejaculation, whether by masturbation or sex with a partner, sperm may be left over in the urethra, the tube that semen travels through. Urinating between ejaculations flushes the urethra of these leftover sperm and clears the way for pre-ejaculate fluid. If sperm remain in the urethra from a previous ejaculation, they may be released with pre-ejaculate . During unprotected vaginal sex, this could allow sperm to enter the vagina and possibly fertilize an egg, even if the man were to pull out before ejaculating.

I hope this clears up any confusion.

November 25, 2015 - 10:43am

Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to the EmpowHER community. I am so very sorry to hear what you have gone through and we are here to help in any way that we can. I am glad to hear that you are receiving counseling. That is so important and I hope it helps.

There was never a risk for becoming pregnant, because you were having your period at the time, but most importantly, you were wearing clothes. Even if he ejaculated, semen could not penetrate your clothing. Pre-ejaculate fluid can contain sperm if the male has had a previous but recent ejaculation. Sperm can remain in the urethra, but is flushed out when he urinates.

High stress levels will cause a delay in the start of a period, and the sudden start and stop in taking microgynon will probably upset the hormonal balance that regulates your menstrual cycle.

I hope you continue to heal each day,

November 25, 2015 - 9:50am
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

sorry to hear this

November 25, 2015 - 10:16am
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